I’ve been thinking a lot lately about the roles of dreams, the hope they provide, and the role they play in life. I’ve been conflicted about this topic for much of my life and career.
I’ve associated with two polar opposite peer groups. One that says the only thing that matters is chasing dreams — the bigger the better. The mantra on this group is “Go Big or Go Home.”
The other that says chasing dreams is irresponsible, impractical and irrational. Their mantra is “Why pursue something that is unlikely to succeed?”.
So which one is right?
I’ve pondered this question for nearly two decades — and have been on both sides of the debate at various times.
Here’s what I’ve concluded…
Both sides are wrong.
Here’s why.
The premise in both arguments is based on the statistical concept of expected value.
Expected Value = The Probability of an Outcome x The Magnitude of the Outcome.
If you flip a coin, and if side A lands face up you win $1 million, and if side B lands face up you win $0, then the expected value = 50% x $1 million = $500,000
The difference between both camps is not in the formula itself. It is in the assumptions used.
The “Go Big or Go Home” crowd aims for bigger outcomes and tend to perceive themselves as having odds of success that are substantially higher than the rest of the population.
The more conservative crowd see their likelihood of success as extremely low, and therefore not worth pursuing even if the potential, but unlikely, outcome is quite high.
My problem with both arguments is the formula itself.
I think using an expected statistical value approach to deciding on whether or not to pursue a dream isn’t the right approach.
It presumes the only value in pursuing the dream is if the dream comes true.
After much thought and life experience, I’ve come to an alternative point of view entirely. I think there is value that comes from pursuing a dream even if you never succeed.
It is entirely possible to pursue a dream where the outcome of your efforts is perpetually unknown. That is, you may be on your way to succeeding or you may not. The point is you don’t know.
This happens when there is a major time lag between when the effort is put into a project versus when you get any feedback on whether your efforts were successful. For example, writing a book that takes 4 years to write, conducting a longitudinal study that takes 15 years to run, etc.
In these situations, you put in the effort — often enormous amounts of effort — and the time to find out if it “worked” is many years later.
From my point of view, the PURSUIT of the dream itself has VALUE to one’s life, irrespective of the outcome.
Let me give you a personal example.
It has always been a dream of mine to go to space (Yes, I watched Star Trek as a kid, and still do, and I’m proud of it, damn it! Sometimes you just gotta take a stand on some things.)
When I was a kid, it was inconceivable that an everyday person could actually find a way to go to space. Fast forward many years later and the space tourism industry was born. The first group of space tourists, which includes the software engineer who created Microsoft Excel, had the honor of paying $20 million to go to space.
Richard Branson is looking to sell tickets to go to space in the range of $250,000 within a few years.
If you want to send a few ounces or grams of your cremated ashes into space, that will cost you $10,000.
Here’s the thing about this dream of mine.
Every time I think about it, I smile.
Here in the Seattle area, our summer just ended and there will be about 9 months of clouds and rain. The other night was incredibly clear. So I slept outside in a sleeping bag, without a tent, so I could look at the stars.
It was the first time I’ve done that since I was in junior high school.
It was AWESOME.
There were so many stars out that night.
For the first time in a long time, and perhaps in forever, I actually fell asleep with a smile on my face.
Now if I wanted to make more actual progress towards the goal, I could set up a savings account of some sort and save $1 per day towards my dream. If you do the math, you quickly realize I’m not going to make it in my lifetime.
But here’s the thing.
Every day I get closer, and you never know what might happen in the future. Maybe prices come down (which is very likely), maybe I win the lottery and can put in $10, $100, or $1,000 into that account per day.
The point is NOT that the math doesn’t work out.
The point is NOT that the pursuit of the dream is illogical because mathematically it can’t be achieved (given current assumptions).
The point is that by making some progress towards the goal, the POSSIBILITY of reaching the goal, no matter how remote, remains just that… slightly more POSSIBLE.
In other words, the value of a dream is NOT in its statistical likelihood of coming true. The value of a dream is in the HOPE it provides to you every day.
A life without hope is not much of a life. You might be able to survive without hope, but you certainly do not thrive.
Just look at numerous wealthy celebrities who end their lives. From the outside, they seemingly have anything and everything the rest of us could ever want. So why did they end their lives when the “expected value” of their lives was so high?
While we will never know for certain, my speculation is their lives somehow reached a point where they had no hope.
Just because hope isn’t quantifiable doesn’t mean it isn’t important.
I am a firm believer that having dreams and pursuing them in some capacity (even if it’s just as a fun thought exercise) is very much worth doing.
The real issue with pursuing dreams isn’t whether or not to pursue them. It’s whether or not it’s worth RISKING what you already have, or giving up what you might get in the future, to pursue it more aggressively.
So pursuing my dreams of visiting space via looking at the stars and smiling is pretty easy to do. It costs me nothing and I have no downside risk.
Would I go to space, assuming I could afford to do so, if there was a 10% chance I would die on the trip?
Now, that’s a decision about a dream with a tradeoff involved.
Making the tradeoff decision is important and something I will address on a different day. It’s also separate from being willing to even entertain the thought of a dream.
But for now, I want to argue that the intellectual pursuit of a dream is fun, doesn’t cost much. It provides hope, joy and smiles — all of which are priceless. Dreams have value — even if never realized.
I encourage you to remember this in your own life, and to think twice before criticizing or stomping on someone else’s dreams.
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32 thoughts on “The Logical Argument for Chasing Dreams”
Victor,
Yes, Hope is the answer. We cannot live fully without it.
My hope is in The Lord. The Creator of the Universe. The One who died for my sins and those of the entire world. My hope is in the Lord. He was, is and is to come. The same eternal. He is my rock and salvation and I am making progress every day towards Him. All mankind can…if they will use their free will that came from Him to pursue Him. All other things are sinking sand. He Lives in our hearts, not our heads….the place where dreams are born and hope springs eternal. Jesus is Lord.
Dreams work as long as you keep a sense of hope along the road, and as long as they are for noble purposes where prosperity is shared with the universe.
Perhaps most of the dreams will never reach reality, or even fully fulfilled after all. Nevertheless, that’s when we try to keep them alive in our inner world, hoping that along the road,and as Victor said, everytime you get a little step closer, you get credit for that attempt.
A noble dream will always pay off, even if things are hostile and against your will. As far as you keep your good faith, your patience , your humbleness, and your consistency, life will work in mysterious way to reward the effort from a different perspective, and whe you less expect it.
Also, bear in mind that noble dream can be shared and even passed on to the next generations as well.
Mr. Cheng,
This was a great piece, especially considering many people who read your website are aspiring to fulfill their dreams.
I wanted to comment on the question you posed to Olumide about whether pursuing the dream to become a McKinsey consultant would be worth it if you knew you would not succeed. More specifically, would there be value in the attempt itself?
I believe the answer lies in how one defines happiness. If achieving your dream is the only passage to true happiness, then, regardless of the value you accumulate from trying to become a McKinsey consultant, you will never be happy if you cannot achieve the goal. But, if true happiness is not tied to this particular dream, then the juice may be worth the squeeze even if you never achieve the goal.
For concreteness, entertain a short hypothetical example:
You have 2 dreams in life: to marry an amazing woman and to work at McKinsey, and these 2 dreams are mutually exclusive. If you can achieve at least 1 of these dreams, then you will be happy. In this case, pursuing the McKinsey dream knowing that you will never achieve it would still be valuable because your happiness isn’t completely tied to the dream. This also assumes that you can attain your goal of marrying your dream woman! But, if your only passage to happiness is working at McKinsey, and you know that won’t happen, then you either have the wrong dream or you need to find other things in life to dream about as well. One who has only 1 dream, essentially has only 1 passage to happiness, and if they know that will not happen, they cannot pursue it. The danger in pursuing a dream that never comes true is that you will spend most of your life unhappy, focusing on something that will not happen, and in the meantime you will miss out on the greatest aspect of life: happiness.
September,
Core happiness does not come from chasing or realizing dreams. It comes from appreciating what you have.
With respect to would pursuing a McKinsey job offer have value even if you knew in advance you would not succeed, what I had in mind were the following:
1) As you researched McKinsey, you added 10 people to your professional network that you would never have otherwise had the opportunity to meet or to develop a relationship.
2) You developed your analytical skills from 20% of what McKinsey requires to 80% of what they look for. You fell short of the McKinsey threshold, but you now had a problem solving skill set to apply to your current job, to seek out other jobs that require only 80% of what McKinsey requires. You tackle new projects in a new way. you impress colleagues with insights you could not previously identify of articulate, etc…
3) You got some insight into how McKinsey operates and why. Then in your current job, you have an opportunity to work on a team with McKinsey consultants (where you are the client). With your newer skills, you’re able to take a very proactive role as the client, impress colleagues in other divisions, improve your intra company reputation, etc…
-Victor
Another way to look at this is to consider that at least in the US, we market and advertise the “idea” of “the dream” as the province of the 18-34 year old age group. As we age, our dreams are sobered by the reality of family, children and job security. It is remarkable to think about this from “idea of the possible” if you look at the evolution of the country from President Kennedy’s time upto the election of President Obama. While I continue to dream, with each year, they are reshaped by my personal and professional journey. In fact, while I have no desire to fly to space, I do dream about finding the “fountain of youth” and turning back the clock to Year One of my college days.
Darryl,
I don’t know how old you are now, but I’m not old enough to appreciate the saying that, “Youth is wasted on the young.”
One thing to keep in mind. Let’s say you are now 40 years old longing to be 18 years old again. When you’re 60 years old, you may long to be 40 years old again.
Today is year 1, from the perspective of you 20 years from today. Don’t overlook the opportunity in front of you to chase the opportunity that disappeared a long time ago.
-Victor
Hi Victor,
Dreaming is about humanity. Much part of our daily life has been dreamed at some point in the past.
Dreams and desires have been mixed some times and created frustration or made the dreamer suspicious.
I am a strong believer that dreaming is an essential activity whatever the outcome.
Regards and thank you for your article.
Hadi
I totally agree that dreams are indeed present, to bring hope. In addition to hope dreams infuse us with a huge amount of energy to chase them. It’s up to every individual on how he wants to utilize that energy – statistical calculations are a good way of arriving at a decision but at times the energy is so high that one just decides to chase the dream.
What a great read! Totally made my day and put a smile on my face. Thanks for all the hard work you do and for the thoughts you share. All the best.
Thank you Victor, another nice piece as clear as that summer night sky.
I like the fact that you have highlighted that the pursuit of a dream is non-linear, and along the way there may be possibility of leaps and bounds that bring that goal closer.
I can imagine how had the first Homo Erectus not looked up at the stars, we may very well be a specie that still crawls along on all fours.
Thank you for the very kind and poignant reminders…
“Only in their dreams can men be truly free. ‘Twas always thus, and always thus will be.”
― Tom Schulman, Dead Poets Society
Winston,
What a lovely quote. Thanks for sharing.
Victor
This is the first time I am writing although I have been reading you for years. Your article this time was something which also makes me thing quite a lot, and for me the important question is: what if you don´t have dreams? Yeah, sure, you may think, I want to be millionaire, I want to be a rockstar or a famous actor, but those are not concrete dreams/goals you can pursue. I once read “there is no good wind for a sailor that doesn´t know where he is going” , in my case I have been consultant for years (I am 31) and right now I think every day which are really my dreams, where I want to be in 5-10 years, managing a beach restaurant in Thailand? Helping kids with a NGO organization? Just having enough money to live well with my family? Every time I think about it I seems more and more difficult to get an answer and I surely envy those people who have everything as clear as you (both professionally and personally) congratulations for the web! Every article you post is a piece of wisdom.
-Manuel
Manuel,
The path to clarity comes from the willingness to continually face the lack of clarity. The path to figuring out what you want comes from being willing to pursue what you THINK you MIGHT want, tolerating being mistaken, and learning from the mistake.
Despite the premise of the strategy consulting, clarity for life decisions often does not come from sitting there and thinking about it.
Victor
Reading this reminds me of a commencement speech by Shonda Rhimes, which was excerpted into a comic. She contrasts the people who dream without doing and the people who are busy working towards those dreams. I agree with her that if it is your dream, you should be working hard towards it.
Don’t just revive the dream (which I would call fantasy) whenever your current job frustrates you. It is within your power to change that.
The comic here: http://zenpencils.com/comic/161-shonda-rhimes-a-screenwriters-advice/
It sounds like this article is advocating that chasing dreams (especially with minimal effort) is great because it brings hope. I would compare this argument to the two girls in the comic lying on the lawn staring up at the sky. I’m sure they’re got plenty of hope and it makes them happy, but I would rather be the person on the right who has hope and makes hope a reality.