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In my last article, I wrote about the 80/20 on Happiness. When you wake up in the morning and also right before bed, think of 3 things you are grateful for. Do this for a week and you will feel 10% happier.
One of my readers, Eric, sent me the original empirical research that measured the effectiveness of this approach. Thank you, Eric!
Since I received a ton of questions about this topic, I thought I’d elaborate on a few things.
- It is better to write down your 3 “grateful things” on a piece of paper than to just think about it. I tend to favor whatever is easier, because if something is easy, it is more likely to get done.
- The 3 things you are grateful for need not be the same things every time. Simply state in that moment whatever you are grateful for, no matter how big or small.
Now I know that many of you might be thinking this happiness stuff is way too woo woo for someone analytical like me. I know this because I used to think that too.
Then I had a thought.
What is the purpose of your career and all the hard work you are doing?
Is the goal to NOT be happy?
Of course not.
If the end game is happiness, then doesn’t it make sense to see if there is a shorter, faster, and easier way to reach it?
I promised to reveal why the gratitude exercise works.
But I thought I’d do just one more exercise first. I encourage you to do it. It will take only 2 minutes:
Scroll to the Comments section below to post a comment on this page. In your comment, list as many things as you are grateful for that you can think of in 2-3 minutes.
The key is to write fast.
Do not over think. Write for speed.
Okay, here is the kicker… (don’t freak out).
Try to write fifty things you are grateful for in 2-3 minutes.
After you are done, describe how you felt — before, during, and after the exercise.
Then read everyone else’s responses.
I promise you if you make the effort to do this 2-3 minute exercise (I know it’s a pain in today’s click-happy world), you will surprise yourself.
Trust me and give it a shot.
In the comments below, write 50 things you are grateful for… and after 2-3 minutes, just stop. Don’t think. Write fast. Don’t write what you think you are supposed to be grateful for. Write for anything large or small that you are grateful for.
Go!
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427 thoughts on “The 80/20 on Happiness – Part II”
1. Parents
2. Sister
3. Resources
4. Fortune
5. Great friends – want to name all
6. Great job – colleagues
7. IIT Bombay
8. Talent – to some level
9. varied experiences
friends at school
got message from my sister from UK at the morning
woke up by my mother
dine with my family and friends
study with my good friends
discuss news with my friends
completed a task on my to-do list
smooth traffic arrangement
get my student ID finally after two months
Full
Sufficient pocket money
Nice weather today
Good teacher and had a meaningful class
Had a good dream this morning, that is not possible in real life
A lot of targets
Every “material” things I have
A lot of available seats at the library
Finally revision time at the library
Not much hurdle today
Early dinner (means fitter and healthier?) [After 2-3minutes]
Before – Felt difficult to spot a single thing to be grateful for
During – Felt “Everything looks fine today”, without dissatisfaction
After – Felt like “Wow – I had a great day”
having alive my dads
having good health
having a farm
having material things (houses)
my education
my cars
my work rxperience I have had
the people i have known
Seeing a good friend from schoold some days ago
Getting in touch again with people from school
My ex girlfriend relationship
Winning an scholarship
Admited to a UK university
Learning from consulting
Worked in Consulting
My grandma
My family abroad
Mom, dad, health, school , Canada, friends, cousins, best friends, happiness, money, job, travelling opportunities, learning opportunities, Ivey, teachers, my boss, food, water, shelter, an amazing house, my next job, my salary, so much love, Emily, Shirley, Tyler, Mike, Krupa, Ann, Maddy, a secure life, clean water, grandma, grandpa, calm, peace of mind, living in a country that is stable and safe, my citizenship, my dad’s success.
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Work
Money
Family
Friends
Luck
Health
MA,
Khushi,
Nili,
Dada
Abu
Tt
Gorba
Craftveda
Pomdi
Bhabi
Comfort
Australia
Food
Friends
Movies
Compassion
Nili
Trips
Delhi
Chicken
Chocolate
Appreciation
Pratim
Dates with Nili.
Mountains
Happiness of parents.
I’m grateful for
1. I have good body and can walk and take things with my 2 hands, I can see the World with my eyes, I can eat by myself and taste food
2. When I’m alone I can call my Mom and sister. They’re alive!
3. I’m not a slave (vs poor kids all over the world)
4. I can travel and see new places
5. I can go to Gym and dance
6. My friends are funny guys
Health, love, work, fulfillment, friends, working out, body, mind, money, freedom, liberty, mom, opportunity, peace of mind, liberty of choice and expression, ability to decide my own destiny,
i can see
i can read
i can taste wonderful food
i can enjoy amazing music
i have a job
i have a lovely cat
i have a home
my parents are still alive and well
i have a soulmate whom i can completely lean on when needed
i can afford to buy most things i want
i appreciate good gestures of people around me
i have pretty smart and amazing friends
i have good worklife balance now
my health has become better
i have good critical judgment to surround myself with people and things i appreciate