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In my last article, I wrote about the 80/20 on Happiness. When you wake up in the morning and also right before bed, think of 3 things you are grateful for. Do this for a week and you will feel 10% happier.
One of my readers, Eric, sent me the original empirical research that measured the effectiveness of this approach. Thank you, Eric!
Since I received a ton of questions about this topic, I thought I’d elaborate on a few things.
- It is better to write down your 3 “grateful things” on a piece of paper than to just think about it. I tend to favor whatever is easier, because if something is easy, it is more likely to get done.
- The 3 things you are grateful for need not be the same things every time. Simply state in that moment whatever you are grateful for, no matter how big or small.
Now I know that many of you might be thinking this happiness stuff is way too woo woo for someone analytical like me. I know this because I used to think that too.
Then I had a thought.
What is the purpose of your career and all the hard work you are doing?
Is the goal to NOT be happy?
Of course not.
If the end game is happiness, then doesn’t it make sense to see if there is a shorter, faster, and easier way to reach it?
I promised to reveal why the gratitude exercise works.
But I thought I’d do just one more exercise first. I encourage you to do it. It will take only 2 minutes:
Scroll to the Comments section below to post a comment on this page. In your comment, list as many things as you are grateful for that you can think of in 2-3 minutes.
The key is to write fast.
Do not over think. Write for speed.
Okay, here is the kicker… (don’t freak out).
Try to write fifty things you are grateful for in 2-3 minutes.
After you are done, describe how you felt — before, during, and after the exercise.
Then read everyone else’s responses.
I promise you if you make the effort to do this 2-3 minute exercise (I know it’s a pain in today’s click-happy world), you will surprise yourself.
Trust me and give it a shot.
In the comments below, write 50 things you are grateful for… and after 2-3 minutes, just stop. Don’t think. Write fast. Don’t write what you think you are supposed to be grateful for. Write for anything large or small that you are grateful for.
Go!
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427 thoughts on “The 80/20 on Happiness – Part II”
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My colleagues
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Peace
Happiness
Not having to constantly struggle
Appreciation for my work
To the person who shortlisted my resume
And the ones who selected me
To have the ability to buy most things I need
Savings
Full night of sleep
Food on my plate
For realizing that there is no God
For countless things that inspire me
To frank Herbert for writing dune
To Monty Python for the song “always look on the bright…”
To jaggi vasudev for his techniques
To Christopher hitchens for standing up for things he believed in
To vyas for writing Mahabharata and Geeta
To you for your video tutorials.
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worrying about my health
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the people i meet
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being the way i am
being able to laugh of practically everything
being interested in everything
having an ease for practically everything i set out to do
not letting life put me down
always smiling
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life always giving me another chance
not being hung up on the past
laugh at some of my stupid concerns
knowing ive already come a long way
knowing i still have much more to accomplish and being ok with the responsibilities that will come up
always finding an easier way to do things
managing to strike a good impression
always getting away with wasting time
being able to laugh at myself for how much time i waste
persevering with this thing here
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