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In my last article, I wrote about the 80/20 on Happiness. When you wake up in the morning and also right before bed, think of 3 things you are grateful for. Do this for a week and you will feel 10% happier.
One of my readers, Eric, sent me the original empirical research that measured the effectiveness of this approach. Thank you, Eric!
Since I received a ton of questions about this topic, I thought I’d elaborate on a few things.
- It is better to write down your 3 “grateful things” on a piece of paper than to just think about it. I tend to favor whatever is easier, because if something is easy, it is more likely to get done.
- The 3 things you are grateful for need not be the same things every time. Simply state in that moment whatever you are grateful for, no matter how big or small.
Now I know that many of you might be thinking this happiness stuff is way too woo woo for someone analytical like me. I know this because I used to think that too.
Then I had a thought.
What is the purpose of your career and all the hard work you are doing?
Is the goal to NOT be happy?
Of course not.
If the end game is happiness, then doesn’t it make sense to see if there is a shorter, faster, and easier way to reach it?
I promised to reveal why the gratitude exercise works.
But I thought I’d do just one more exercise first. I encourage you to do it. It will take only 2 minutes:
Scroll to the Comments section below to post a comment on this page. In your comment, list as many things as you are grateful for that you can think of in 2-3 minutes.
The key is to write fast.
Do not over think. Write for speed.
Okay, here is the kicker… (don’t freak out).
Try to write fifty things you are grateful for in 2-3 minutes.
After you are done, describe how you felt — before, during, and after the exercise.
Then read everyone else’s responses.
I promise you if you make the effort to do this 2-3 minute exercise (I know it’s a pain in today’s click-happy world), you will surprise yourself.
Trust me and give it a shot.
In the comments below, write 50 things you are grateful for… and after 2-3 minutes, just stop. Don’t think. Write fast. Don’t write what you think you are supposed to be grateful for. Write for anything large or small that you are grateful for.
Go!
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427 thoughts on “The 80/20 on Happiness – Part II”
love kindness of strangers peace music classical music pop music my parents that I am healthy that I have a nice smile good teeth nice hair that I have good income and a home and a really sweet and pretty girlfriend the internet fish and chips a good education warmth and shelter books to read amazon kindle youtube coffee and tea milk tea ice tea i’ve been to more than 30 countries on 5 continents including almost all of southeast asia I saw obama bush and clinton i have had an amazing ride i had an amazing ride my car I wrote pop songs that are pretty cool i have great friends a loving family.
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I am grateful for these things:-
my parents
my academic achievements
my body
my mother
my big sister
my litter brother
my honesty
my courage
my consistency
my religion
my moral stand
my friends
my clear mind
my keen interest to grow
for each day i am allowed to have
my health
for the position i have right now
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I am grateful for:
– My work
– Messages or the unexpected ‘Hello’ from old contacts
– Lunch at work 🙂
my son
my wife
my friends
my family
travel
the best dog in the world
food
water
health
contact lenses
paid work
literacy
books
pens
paper
medical technology
healthcare
good health
colleagues
computers
internet
telephones
hugs
kisses
language
science
the sun
life
love
pain
suffering
hope
scuba diving
water
experiences
nature
speech
5 senses
39 ideas in 3 minutes – more than I expected
feelings before: grumpy and sceptical
feelings during: surprised and excited
feelings after: energised and looking for possibilities
life
health
energy
brain
thoughts
love
sex
happiness
power
freedom
strength
beauty
comprehension
technology
ambition
greatness
legacy
satisfaction
brain
thoughts
lust
truth
speed
perfection
nature
Television
suspense
new
Science
curiosity
accomplishments
hunger
desire
limitless possibilities
EVERYTHING
school
food
shelter
cloths
phone
loving parents
loving friends
health
ability to pursue opportunities
youth
a future to look forward to
ice cream
work
food
girls
My list
Family
Love
Friends
People
Guitar
Health
Professional Knowledge
Job
Financial situation
Country democracy
History
House
Social skills
Leadership
Education
Traveling
Mom, dad’s health
Sister’s entrepreneur career
Cooking
Books
Strongerr emotionally and mentally
More organized
Be quicker
Relations with people
Networks
Be inspired and inspiring people
Stay positive
Critical thinking
Helping people
Girlfriend
Healthy and active parents
Brother
Bilingualism
Started learning a foreign language
Health
Knowledge about nutrition
Knowledge about exercise
Having the opportunity to travel
Having the opportunity to work in another country
Basic intelligence
Willingness to learn
Sex
Kindle
Country of birth
Two citizenships
I am grateful for:
my health
that i can walk
new job
interesting lectures
family
friends
new friends
fellow students
tomorrows party
going home
girlfriend
old job
getting into school
choosing to go to 8year
soberness
feeling good
my computer
money
living
shelter
food
great food
water
tea
sleeping tonight
this weekend full of sex
smile of my gf
roses
my schedule
my performance in uni
uni abroad
books
victor cheng
cure from bad disease