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In my last article, I wrote about the 80/20 on Happiness. When you wake up in the morning and also right before bed, think of 3 things you are grateful for. Do this for a week and you will feel 10% happier.
One of my readers, Eric, sent me the original empirical research that measured the effectiveness of this approach. Thank you, Eric!
Since I received a ton of questions about this topic, I thought I’d elaborate on a few things.
- It is better to write down your 3 “grateful things” on a piece of paper than to just think about it. I tend to favor whatever is easier, because if something is easy, it is more likely to get done.
- The 3 things you are grateful for need not be the same things every time. Simply state in that moment whatever you are grateful for, no matter how big or small.
Now I know that many of you might be thinking this happiness stuff is way too woo woo for someone analytical like me. I know this because I used to think that too.
Then I had a thought.
What is the purpose of your career and all the hard work you are doing?
Is the goal to NOT be happy?
Of course not.
If the end game is happiness, then doesn’t it make sense to see if there is a shorter, faster, and easier way to reach it?
I promised to reveal why the gratitude exercise works.
But I thought I’d do just one more exercise first. I encourage you to do it. It will take only 2 minutes:
Scroll to the Comments section below to post a comment on this page. In your comment, list as many things as you are grateful for that you can think of in 2-3 minutes.
The key is to write fast.
Do not over think. Write for speed.
Okay, here is the kicker… (don’t freak out).
Try to write fifty things you are grateful for in 2-3 minutes.
After you are done, describe how you felt — before, during, and after the exercise.
Then read everyone else’s responses.
I promise you if you make the effort to do this 2-3 minute exercise (I know it’s a pain in today’s click-happy world), you will surprise yourself.
Trust me and give it a shot.
In the comments below, write 50 things you are grateful for… and after 2-3 minutes, just stop. Don’t think. Write fast. Don’t write what you think you are supposed to be grateful for. Write for anything large or small that you are grateful for.
Go!
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427 thoughts on “The 80/20 on Happiness – Part II”
My mum
My dad
My brother
My husband
My friends
Having had a dog as young
Travelling
Summer house
Being able to buy really good gruyere
Having a house in the alps
Having a summer house
My yoga teacher
Running 10 k
Swimming
Skiing
Diving
Buying beautiful bags
Skinny dipping a late summer evening
Sex
Kissing
Massages
Manicure
Pedicure
Cooking
Baking
Farming
A mornig walk in the alps among the clouds in summer time
Food and drinks
Living In a hotel
Health
Friends
Family
Interesting work
Traveling
Internet
Entertainment
Ice cream
Going out
Dining out
Going to the gym
Swimming
Going to the spa
Moving out of my parents’
Sex
Going through college and graduating
Books
Facebook
iPhone
Challenges
Reclining airplane seats
European movies
Museums
Art overall
mother
job
health
home
lover
warm
not so late
internet
saturday
day is done
no eat tonight
comleted my task
nobody disturbs
kisses
soap
taxi
will sleep more
still writing
he loves me
i am still there
I will do the haircut tmr
already wedn
made it to sign up to…
still do he exercise
herik, jiaid, this opportunity, the blunt criticism, the little pat on the shoulder, the sharing of learning as a beginner, my mom, help, support, they way they change, the constant pick-me-up, the 6-month what you are learning, that coffee chat, what others say down about me
Health
Not money issues
Girlfriend
Parents
People surrounding me
Being smart
Having a nice bundle of chances in life
Finishing my studies
Advancing on my thesis
Having nice interviews
Music
Sport
Life in general
Nice weekends in the UK
Travelling
Learning
Languages
Getting continuous knowledge
Healthy diet
Fast learning capacity
All the things I have
All the potential things I can have
My aspirations
My masters
B-school itself
B-school people
Great education
my friends, my apartment, my family, my laptop is working, my health, my ambition, my master thesis, my co-founder, my mouse, my tap water, my roommate, my favourite club, my university, my neighbors
parents – love and support and health
brother – love and support and health
husband – love and support and health
roof over my head
live in a peaceful state (vs. fragile state – war, civil unrest)
education – grad and undergrad
clean water and sanitation available
Good healthcare
access to energy – electricity
Food in general – dont go to bed hungry
live in urban settings
Steady job w steady income
Love my job and the work I do – gives me meaning
Clothes and ability to buy new ones (not luxury goods)
Family
Access to internet
Green trees around me
Coffee
chocolate
Ability to fly home whenever I want (I do not live in my home country)
Belief in higher power (and prayers)
Friends (near and far)
health, my family, my partner, my friends, EO, apartment, my doctors, fitness, my life today, the life I have lived so far, our city, the mountains around, beautiful nature here, our neighbors, freedom, wealth, peace, great food, the people I meet every day, the ability to travel, the work I do, brainpower, lots of free time, safety, security, lots of sunshine, exercise in beautiful nature, great snow in winter, support from my friends, challenges, being able to help
friends
job
health
sports
peace
friendliness
my mom
dad
safeteyness
funny memories
tragic memories
good food
education
improvement through engaging people
biking
sun, summer
beaches
snorkeling
gf
sex
trees, woods
techno
rolling stones
How i felt, I m feeling:
Still having a soft smile on my face=); (more) positive thinking
Consulting job
Salary
Brothers
Mothers teachings
Dad
Step mom
Friends
Hostel life
Neighbours
Health
Hindu
Indian
Mumbai
Maharashtrian
Chicago stay
Cloths
Mac
iPhone
Iskcon
Krishna