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In my last article, I wrote about the 80/20 on Happiness. When you wake up in the morning and also right before bed, think of 3 things you are grateful for. Do this for a week and you will feel 10% happier.
One of my readers, Eric, sent me the original empirical research that measured the effectiveness of this approach. Thank you, Eric!
Since I received a ton of questions about this topic, I thought I’d elaborate on a few things.
- It is better to write down your 3 “grateful things” on a piece of paper than to just think about it. I tend to favor whatever is easier, because if something is easy, it is more likely to get done.
- The 3 things you are grateful for need not be the same things every time. Simply state in that moment whatever you are grateful for, no matter how big or small.
Now I know that many of you might be thinking this happiness stuff is way too woo woo for someone analytical like me. I know this because I used to think that too.
Then I had a thought.
What is the purpose of your career and all the hard work you are doing?
Is the goal to NOT be happy?
Of course not.
If the end game is happiness, then doesn’t it make sense to see if there is a shorter, faster, and easier way to reach it?
I promised to reveal why the gratitude exercise works.
But I thought I’d do just one more exercise first. I encourage you to do it. It will take only 2 minutes:
Scroll to the Comments section below to post a comment on this page. In your comment, list as many things as you are grateful for that you can think of in 2-3 minutes.
The key is to write fast.
Do not over think. Write for speed.
Okay, here is the kicker… (don’t freak out).
Try to write fifty things you are grateful for in 2-3 minutes.
After you are done, describe how you felt — before, during, and after the exercise.
Then read everyone else’s responses.
I promise you if you make the effort to do this 2-3 minute exercise (I know it’s a pain in today’s click-happy world), you will surprise yourself.
Trust me and give it a shot.
In the comments below, write 50 things you are grateful for… and after 2-3 minutes, just stop. Don’t think. Write fast. Don’t write what you think you are supposed to be grateful for. Write for anything large or small that you are grateful for.
Go!
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427 thoughts on “The 80/20 on Happiness – Part II”
family, friends, university, work, work colegues, health, good education, not uggly, have a great home, live in a good neighborhood, have an opportunity to leave my job for a while, have money to do what I want and buy what I need, in a pretty cool project,
my family, my boyfriend, my job, my job offer, my education, my appearance, my smile, my compassion, my personality, my city, my computer, my health, coffee, campfires, jokes, my boss, my previous bosses, my colleagues, my admins, my cell phone, food, my ability to cook, math, a comfortable lifestyle, my shoes, my clothes, my friends, my apartment, my house, my optimism,
good health, great wife, amazing mom,sis, bros who genuinely care..enough money to do what i want with it..good work after a long time, boss/colleagues are among the better ppl than i have worked with earlier.. comfortable life, good education, ability to spread good around..
My life, sunshine, husband children family fresh air nice people smiles warmth coffee heated seats peace tranquility fall leaves meeting friends weekends free time workouts greek yogurt 🙂
family
job
weather
friends
education
talent
health
food
disposition
home
Life
My loving wife
My beautiful children and grandchildren
My son-in-law and his family
Our extended families
Love
Caring people
Pets
The planet
Good food
Relationships
Beaches
Sunshine
Rain
The chance to contribute
The chance to win and make a difference
The belief that difficult things will be resolved
And many, many more to the list above
Wonderful exercise
God
My brother
My life in Detroit
My girlfriend
My parents
My students from last year
My job now
The opportunity to sleep in
Having been born in America
Having grown up in the USA
My education
My bicycle
My health
The gym in my apartment
My phone
My computer
My ability to see
My ability to read
My ability to forgive
My ability to move on
The chance to love other people
The chance to develop my faith
The opportunity to travel
The ability to hope
Couldn’t help reading other comments briefly. Must have created some bias. I tried not to be influenced. Overall feels good.
freedom
some money
driving
love
son
daughter
daughter
health
spirituality
travel
sex
fitness
running
B-School
intellect
feeling better
high self-esteem
recognizing the need to be humble
gratefulness
God
present home
view
country
family
job
focus
grace
aptitude
attitude
learning
doing