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In my last article, I wrote about the 80/20 on Happiness. When you wake up in the morning and also right before bed, think of 3 things you are grateful for. Do this for a week and you will feel 10% happier.
One of my readers, Eric, sent me the original empirical research that measured the effectiveness of this approach. Thank you, Eric!
Since I received a ton of questions about this topic, I thought I’d elaborate on a few things.
- It is better to write down your 3 “grateful things” on a piece of paper than to just think about it. I tend to favor whatever is easier, because if something is easy, it is more likely to get done.
- The 3 things you are grateful for need not be the same things every time. Simply state in that moment whatever you are grateful for, no matter how big or small.
Now I know that many of you might be thinking this happiness stuff is way too woo woo for someone analytical like me. I know this because I used to think that too.
Then I had a thought.
What is the purpose of your career and all the hard work you are doing?
Is the goal to NOT be happy?
Of course not.
If the end game is happiness, then doesn’t it make sense to see if there is a shorter, faster, and easier way to reach it?
I promised to reveal why the gratitude exercise works.
But I thought I’d do just one more exercise first. I encourage you to do it. It will take only 2 minutes:
Scroll to the Comments section below to post a comment on this page. In your comment, list as many things as you are grateful for that you can think of in 2-3 minutes.
The key is to write fast.
Do not over think. Write for speed.
Okay, here is the kicker… (don’t freak out).
Try to write fifty things you are grateful for in 2-3 minutes.
After you are done, describe how you felt — before, during, and after the exercise.
Then read everyone else’s responses.
I promise you if you make the effort to do this 2-3 minute exercise (I know it’s a pain in today’s click-happy world), you will surprise yourself.
Trust me and give it a shot.
In the comments below, write 50 things you are grateful for… and after 2-3 minutes, just stop. Don’t think. Write fast. Don’t write what you think you are supposed to be grateful for. Write for anything large or small that you are grateful for.
Go!
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427 thoughts on “The 80/20 on Happiness – Part II”
1. My Faith
2. My Family
3. Parents with good values & moral upbringing
4. Fashionable sister who taught me how to look presentable
5. Caring sister who nurtured me emotionally
6. Youngest sister with so much live and enthusiasm
7. Family who is faithfully serving God in Christianity
8. An understanding boyfriend
9. A caring bf
10. A bf who cooks
11. Bf who has helped me gain passion for my own country
12. My country, Malaysia
13. Bah Kut Teh
14. Awesome Malaysian food
15. OCF journey
16. Talents in drama
17. Good friends I’ve found in Australia
18. Best friend who can relate to similar struggles with me
19. Best friend who calls me and checks up on me
20. Best friend who knows me inside out
21. Childhood friends from klang who still keeps in touch with me
22. Children, they make me HAPPY
23. Prince of Egypt success
24. A chance to pursue studies oversea
25. Chance to further studies
26. Opportunity to work at Warong & PANDA
27. Skies
28. SUN!
29. Warmer Aussie temperature now
30. Everyone at OCF
31. Jesus’s love & sacrifice
32. The existence of movies
33. Modern Family & Avatar
34. Existence of musical performances
35. Wicked, Phantom of the Opera, Les Mis
36. Music
37. Good songs
38. Art (Painting)
39. Toffee
40. I’m alive
41. Chocolates (KITKAT, Ferrero Rocher)
42. KIKKI.K (awesome stationary there)
43. Good dessert places in Australia
44. The gift of journaling
45. Pastor Timon
46. Pretty Flowers
47. Ability to bake
48. Willpower
49. Prayer
50. Kindness
food
sleep
money
a job
siblings
a car
an apartment
a sense of humor
education
water
eyes
chocolate
a bed
being able to walk
clothing
being able to read
friends
journey mercies
travel
being tall
cake
burgers
clothing
shoes
a car
sun avocado bed fashion art food love friends sea swimming travel warmth saunas school friends sofas books reading movies sand holidays
family, my dear love, healthy parents, my healthy, money, free time to enjoy life, beautiful city, air, a lot of friends, beautiful house, good teacher, good university, experience, good weather, job, car, train, montain, hope, water, food, running every day, i have many choices, smile, face, sex, computer, game, information, shopping online, book, air condition, shower, no disease, walk after dinner, lake, boat, green coulour, blue sea, football, swimming, bicycle, phd degree
my body
my daughter Izzy
my health
living in SoCal
yummy food
my business
my comfy bed
my long legs
my arms
my short hair
my clothes
my mom
my dad
my brother
my community
transformation
Bestseller in a Weekend
being happy
hot yoga
running
my friends
Melissa
waking up this morning
my dog macade
my house
the beach
the sun
dark chocolate
trader joe’s
NYC
LA
airplanes
singing
dancing
love
sex
kissing
sit-ups
sushi
socal weather
my car
beautiful people in my life
water
ocean
UCLA
powerful women
non-profits
entrepreneurs
Victor Cheng
smiles
high heels
essential oils
natural food
organic food
loving people
IPhone 6
Internet
travel
my memories
my experiences
my education
Am alive
I can breathe
I can swallow
I can read and write
I can eat food
I have got a wonderful and lovely family
I have a praying and supportive mother
I have a thriving company
I have a bed to sleep on
I have clothes to wear
Very great friends
Car
I enjoy travelling
Sex
eyes
hands
legs
Do normal things
Run
walk
sleep
dance
sing
hear the lovely birds around
health
I am grateful for:
– That I am together with my loving girlfriend, who I wish to live the rest of my life with
– That I have great physical health, nothing really to complain about
– That the wealth of my country and surroundings, many others are not that lucky
– That I live in a country with freedom of speech
– That I live in a country where everyone have access to free education
– That I live in a country that (still) supports the less fortuned
– That I have seen very different cultures of the world
– That I have a strong mind
– That I have a loving family
– That dogs exists
– That I took the time to write this little list.
friends, good colleagues, house, enjoyable books, fluency in 3 languages, good weather, health, sport, good nerves, all wonderful people in my life, exposure to Chinese culture, my relatives, traveling around the world, education
wife
ipad
niece
job
career
easy life
cab to office
bed
food
no worry of money
intellect
ted
health
not joining FK
future prospects
baby
babies health
isb
friends
colleagues
satisfaction
contentment
My girlfriend
kittens chloe and zoe
macbook
cake
KFC
pizza
olive oil
great craft beer
wine
sex
soft pillows
memory foam
soft sheets
sunshine
long runs
my feet
my penis
my eyes
my hair
my smile
my iPhone
my chest hair
the opportunity to love
freedom
my parents
being born in SF
living in central london
my awesome flat
my great job
alex, the CEO
Sophie, my line manager
Elle
Will and Kate for their great work and attitude
cheap curry
burrittos
warm soup on a cold day
volleyball
a great spike
teamwork
old friends
jess
jane
the tough mudder