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In my last article, I wrote about the 80/20 on Happiness. When you wake up in the morning and also right before bed, think of 3 things you are grateful for. Do this for a week and you will feel 10% happier.
One of my readers, Eric, sent me the original empirical research that measured the effectiveness of this approach. Thank you, Eric!
Since I received a ton of questions about this topic, I thought I’d elaborate on a few things.
- It is better to write down your 3 “grateful things” on a piece of paper than to just think about it. I tend to favor whatever is easier, because if something is easy, it is more likely to get done.
- The 3 things you are grateful for need not be the same things every time. Simply state in that moment whatever you are grateful for, no matter how big or small.
Now I know that many of you might be thinking this happiness stuff is way too woo woo for someone analytical like me. I know this because I used to think that too.
Then I had a thought.
What is the purpose of your career and all the hard work you are doing?
Is the goal to NOT be happy?
Of course not.
If the end game is happiness, then doesn’t it make sense to see if there is a shorter, faster, and easier way to reach it?
I promised to reveal why the gratitude exercise works.
But I thought I’d do just one more exercise first. I encourage you to do it. It will take only 2 minutes:
Scroll to the Comments section below to post a comment on this page. In your comment, list as many things as you are grateful for that you can think of in 2-3 minutes.
The key is to write fast.
Do not over think. Write for speed.
Okay, here is the kicker… (don’t freak out).
Try to write fifty things you are grateful for in 2-3 minutes.
After you are done, describe how you felt — before, during, and after the exercise.
Then read everyone else’s responses.
I promise you if you make the effort to do this 2-3 minute exercise (I know it’s a pain in today’s click-happy world), you will surprise yourself.
Trust me and give it a shot.
In the comments below, write 50 things you are grateful for… and after 2-3 minutes, just stop. Don’t think. Write fast. Don’t write what you think you are supposed to be grateful for. Write for anything large or small that you are grateful for.
Go!
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427 thoughts on “The 80/20 on Happiness – Part II”
family, friends, food, sunrises, sunsets, my wife, my car not breaking down, good books, lazy weekends, interesting teachers, good whiskey,
Family
Friends
Being employed
Living in America
Reading
Exercise
listening to music
drive to learn
my grandmother
having gotten in to a top college
living in NYC
lasagna
beer
art
museums
coffee
wine
ice cream
living close to a sibling
having grown up close to the ocean
hiking
sunsets
warm weather
having financial independence within my reach
swimming
squash
my mentor
Basketball player
Awesome family
Good with girls
American
All rounder
Optimistic
Good person
Honest
Fun
Know how to talk
Can speak in diff accents
Am loved
Am a believer
Have resources
Have friends
Popularity
Intelligent
Branded college
Healthy and fit
Grateful for:
Dad
Mon
Gramma
My few and good friends
Peanut butter
Backpacking
Air conditioner
My work
Solving problems
Making people laugh
Seeing dad happy
Rain
Mom’s food
Ice cream
Reading and having books available
Movies
Good general health and functional body
my Godmother who is wonderful to me
my mum who is awesome
that i have to mothers
pizza
patrick
amara
miliki
I have been able to improve myself
University degree
I am always favored
I can now swim
I have a better life
my abs are looking better
I can afford Zumba
My car is working again
I can afford good clothes
I can go for holidays
my stomach doesn’t hurt anymore
burger
Johnny Rocket Salad is still very good
I can afford Johnny Rocket
I got an email from Mckinsey
My time is up!!!!
Mom
Dad
Jeff
Liz
Grampy
LAH
Jon
Jim
Kate
Neil II
Neil III
Claire
Carol
B Sr
B Jr
AK
Olivia
Casey
Fenway
Bailey
Cera
Chelsea
Wentworth
Grammy
Jim
Kate
Maddie
Carrie
Nancy
Grandma
Grandpa
UJoe
Joseph
Jacob
Martha
Anne
Larry
Pat
Beth
Tommy
Lisa
Brian
Meg
Katie C
Bennett
Ace
Ethan
Kevin
Heather
Michelle
Mark
Drew
Dave
Sue
PJ
Kate
Shane
Dylan
Vin
Perry
Dwaine
Eric
Brian D.
Mike
John
I’m gratefull for:
1. My parents to give me such a good upbrining
2. My environment to see such great thing in me and to believe in me
3. My friends to share happy moments with me
4. My enemies to give me the feeling of competition to go on fighting
5. My native town to develop specific lines of character in myself
6. My boss to protect me in front of others
7. For Cheng to give groundbreaking insights in life
8. For Apple to give me opportunity to leverage my mind
9. For my body, my spirit and strengths to keep on fighting
10. For my aunt to be such a good person
11. For my gf to care about me and to go through hard stuff with me
12. For my gf grandmother to see such a good person in me
1. I can read
2. I can understand a little Korean
3. I can tell the difference between eastern languages & dialects
4. I have a job
5. I can afford lunch
6. My parents are still alive and well
7. I have no known enemies
8. I get paid photo shoots
9. I’m a good writer
10. I can see
11. I have all my fingers
12. I have all my body parts
13. I have no internal disease
14. I have great friends
15. I can speak proper English
16. I can type fast
17. I have a roof over my head
18. I have an apartment in my name
19. I have my choice of lovers (if I so choose to take)
20. I’m a great runner
21. I can do “man” pushups
22. I have a cat
23. I have food in the fridge
24. I own a jacket
25. I have heat in my apartment
26. My hot water in my bath stays hot for a long time, it never seems to run out
27. I have a sister who loves me
28. I have people who inspire me
29. I can meditate… a little
30. I always have a good laugh each day
31. I always meet cool people
32. I have long voluminous hair
33. I have good skin
34. I can afford to buy good skin care products
35. I have shoes
36. I have the money to afford sturdy shoes
37. I can take myself out for a treat if I want too
38. I can write
39. I can teach creative arts
40. I can act
41. I can find creative solutions to problems
42. I have great people around me who assist me
43. I conquered PTSD
44. I survived living in new York after coming here with only ten dollars
45. I have my own room
46. I have my own bed
47. I have two little black dresses for any occasion
48. I have lunch today
49. I have money in my bank account
50. I have plans for the future.
My wife
house
friends
family
work
Cape Town
health
God
ability to read
Technology
Movies
Flyfishing
my childhood
church
my mind
outdoors
ability to travel
this blog
availability of wisdom
other people with good intentions
modern science
information availability
my freedom
my colleagues
my experience
I’m a good gym trainer
I’m a good manager
I’m organisator