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In my last article, I wrote about the 80/20 on Happiness. When you wake up in the morning and also right before bed, think of 3 things you are grateful for. Do this for a week and you will feel 10% happier.
One of my readers, Eric, sent me the original empirical research that measured the effectiveness of this approach. Thank you, Eric!
Since I received a ton of questions about this topic, I thought I’d elaborate on a few things.
- It is better to write down your 3 “grateful things” on a piece of paper than to just think about it. I tend to favor whatever is easier, because if something is easy, it is more likely to get done.
- The 3 things you are grateful for need not be the same things every time. Simply state in that moment whatever you are grateful for, no matter how big or small.
Now I know that many of you might be thinking this happiness stuff is way too woo woo for someone analytical like me. I know this because I used to think that too.
Then I had a thought.
What is the purpose of your career and all the hard work you are doing?
Is the goal to NOT be happy?
Of course not.
If the end game is happiness, then doesn’t it make sense to see if there is a shorter, faster, and easier way to reach it?
I promised to reveal why the gratitude exercise works.
But I thought I’d do just one more exercise first. I encourage you to do it. It will take only 2 minutes:
Scroll to the Comments section below to post a comment on this page. In your comment, list as many things as you are grateful for that you can think of in 2-3 minutes.
The key is to write fast.
Do not over think. Write for speed.
Okay, here is the kicker… (don’t freak out).
Try to write fifty things you are grateful for in 2-3 minutes.
After you are done, describe how you felt — before, during, and after the exercise.
Then read everyone else’s responses.
I promise you if you make the effort to do this 2-3 minute exercise (I know it’s a pain in today’s click-happy world), you will surprise yourself.
Trust me and give it a shot.
In the comments below, write 50 things you are grateful for… and after 2-3 minutes, just stop. Don’t think. Write fast. Don’t write what you think you are supposed to be grateful for. Write for anything large or small that you are grateful for.
Go!
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427 thoughts on “The 80/20 on Happiness – Part II”
God, family, friends, finding love and purpose, forgiveness from others and myself to myself. the fact that I am breathing and the grace I have had in my career and everything I aspire for, the dream girl, the dream job – even though it is time consuming, the humility in knowing that i may not be the best or worthy but that still doesnt stop you from the best, to live without fear of failure, having role models and siblings and . . . so much
My mentors in life.
The weather.
Accepting family as a way to grow.
My toys
My career
My self awareness
Girls
Friends
Friendships
Meditation
My morning ritual
Internet
Technology
Financial independency
Hanging out
Beer
Food
My body
Healthy way of living
Sports
Soccer
My soon to-be company
The animals
The plants
The planet
Humor
Dark humor
Science
Religion
The union of the 2 above
Water
The green movement
Acceptance of limitations
Good intentions
The light in everyone
Understanding of motivation
Running
Techniques for reducing anxiety
Home
Car
City
State
Country
My networking community
My experiences
Me learning curve
My intelligence
The growth of the ones around me
My will to help
My purpose in life
My incantations
1. Parents who took care of me and educate me
2. Good health
3. Very understanding wife
4. Cheerful son
5. Friends who taught me a lot
6. Job which helps me pay my bills
7. Analytical thinking
8. That I have lived in three continents
9. Good bosses
10. Good colleagues
11. Great team when I worked in Saudi
12. Sofa in my house
13. Heater water in my house for shower
14. Backyard garden where I have a tomato plant
15. Office window from where I can see out
16. Office which is not far from home
17. Vacation allowance which helps me travel
18. iPhone 6 plus
19. My Nissan pathfinder car
20. My investments which grew well in 2014
21. Sunny days in Houston
22. Great projects I am currently working on
23. My college days
24. My days at Evalueserve
25. My treadmill which keeps me healthy
26. My DSLR which allows me capture great moment
27. Friends I made in Nigeria
28. My time spent in Rajahmundry
29. Poorna, the cook
30. My parent in laws
31. My sister
32. My nephew and niece
33. My brother in law
34. My sister in law
35. Clear air in sugar land
36. My professors in college
37. My teachers in school
38. My tech fest team
39. The placement office team
40. Maddu mess
41. The causeway from Saudi to Bahrain
42. My cricket team at IIT
43. My hostel mates
44. My wing mates from first year in college
45. My seniors at IIT
46. The engineering team in France
47. My FTC
48. The support staff in Nigeria
49. My crew when I was a field engineer
50. Being Indian
Read, think, health, money, comfort, parents, guidance, support, friends, relatives, job, fit, resources to carry on my things, peace of mind, respect, knowledge, sharp mind, good pedigree.
Grateful for:
love,
friendship
family,
husband
son
daughter
creativity
birds
butterflies
dirt
gardening
friends
laughter
blue sky
good food
jokes
warm home
puppy
heat
water
recycling
composting
birdbath
colors
nieces
nephews
mindfulness
meditation
internet
understanding conditions
CBT
Shyamala
Rebecca
Nandita
cooking
prayer bell
prayer
Have a car
Good health
BSc degree with distinctions
Almost done with MSc
Woke up this morning
Good financial state
No high blood pressure
No major stress/depression
Can walk
See as a inspiration by many
Poised for a good future
Admired by many
Good family relationship
Good friends though few
A visionary
I am grateful for
1. I am with arms and legs
2. I am healthy
3. I have god
4. I have a wonderful partner
5. I have a good job
6. I can do a lot of my interests
7. My family loves me
8. I have best sister
9. I enjoy music
10. I have great friends
11. I can dance with my crew
12. I can enjoy vacations
13. I get along with animals
14. I enjoy spirits
15. I enjoy movies
16. I have confidence
17. Acoustics
18. Motor bikes
19. Dance
20. Understand different languages
21. Experience foreign life
22. Good education
23. Can be happy not because of material
24. Enjoy jokes
25. Have a sense of humor
26. Have good taste
27. Have beard
28. Have savings
29. Am from Taiwan
30. Am friendly
31. Have a good church
32. Got saved by god
33. Good at sports
34. Enjoy beaches
35. Can scuba dive
36. Can surf
37. Can see the world under water
38. I love my parents
39. Am willing to help others
40. Can see
41. Can move
42. Sleep well
43. Am healthy
44. Enjoy running
45. Play pingpong
46. Am thin
47. accept other’s help
48. enjoy reading
49. can think clearly
50. can smell
there are many things i can be grateful for. i simply haven’t been paying much attention. it’s true that reminding myself about things i am grateful for will make myself happy. thanks VC.
1 – friends
2 – amazing opportunities in my life
3 – having been admitted to Cambridge
4 – graduating from uni without debt
5 – an interesting job
6 – being good at my job
7 – opportunities to advance and develop
8 – being challenged
9 – my family
10 – being healthy
11 – being fit (or at least fit enough)
12 – being quite pretty
13 – being able to understand quickly
14 – beautiful days in the mountains
15 – being able to travel the world
16 – having friends around the world
17 – not having to worry about money
18 – support by my parents in my endeavors
19 – being trusted
20 – having seen so many wonders of the world with my own eyes
21 – being able to use and develop my talents
22 – my parents allowing my to find my own way
23 – being almost 30 and still have grandparents
24 – grandparents who will just love you
25 – being appreciated by my clients
26 – being able to make difference
27 – clear night in the desert
28 – having a beautiful, cozy apartment
29 – nights out with friends
30 – that is it almost vacation time and I have 3 weeks off
31 – having the flexibility to just go and surprise a friend for her birthday
32 – Angela
33 – Linh
34 – that the world is my oyster
35 – being born in a developed country
36 – being raised liberal
37 – critical thought
38 – having lived in the US
39 – having lived in Japan
40 – having lived in the UK
41 – exposure to many different industries and capabilities
42 – being articulate
43 – being confident
44 – being resilient (and not depressed)
45 – inspiring people
46 – being bilingual
47 – having rowed for Cambridge
48 – career prospects
49 – knowing I have people who are there for me when I need them
50 – having a boss I click with
I’m grateful for
having healthy kids
having good health
Having a house
having a family
having all organs
having a wife
living a good lifestyle
having good food
having done my MBA
friends
disney
Riding my bike in December
My awesome wife
My leading older daughter
My crazy middle daughter
My cutest youngest daughter
Able to excercise
Not looking my age
Spacious house
Having succesfully emmigrated. Twice
Being appreciated by colleagues
Family that (mostly) shows an interest 😉
Warm, cuddly bed at night (among my top 3 almost every night)
Great health care
Dual citizenship
Finally financially stable for the first time in my adult life
All the toys I could want, and more
Not wanting for birthday or Xmas presents
Being able to buy my family presents
Having food on the table every day
Having just visited friends and family – on another continent