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In my last article, I wrote about the 80/20 on Happiness. When you wake up in the morning and also right before bed, think of 3 things you are grateful for. Do this for a week and you will feel 10% happier.
One of my readers, Eric, sent me the original empirical research that measured the effectiveness of this approach. Thank you, Eric!
Since I received a ton of questions about this topic, I thought I’d elaborate on a few things.
- It is better to write down your 3 “grateful things” on a piece of paper than to just think about it. I tend to favor whatever is easier, because if something is easy, it is more likely to get done.
- The 3 things you are grateful for need not be the same things every time. Simply state in that moment whatever you are grateful for, no matter how big or small.
Now I know that many of you might be thinking this happiness stuff is way too woo woo for someone analytical like me. I know this because I used to think that too.
Then I had a thought.
What is the purpose of your career and all the hard work you are doing?
Is the goal to NOT be happy?
Of course not.
If the end game is happiness, then doesn’t it make sense to see if there is a shorter, faster, and easier way to reach it?
I promised to reveal why the gratitude exercise works.
But I thought I’d do just one more exercise first. I encourage you to do it. It will take only 2 minutes:
Scroll to the Comments section below to post a comment on this page. In your comment, list as many things as you are grateful for that you can think of in 2-3 minutes.
The key is to write fast.
Do not over think. Write for speed.
Okay, here is the kicker… (don’t freak out).
Try to write fifty things you are grateful for in 2-3 minutes.
After you are done, describe how you felt — before, during, and after the exercise.
Then read everyone else’s responses.
I promise you if you make the effort to do this 2-3 minute exercise (I know it’s a pain in today’s click-happy world), you will surprise yourself.
Trust me and give it a shot.
In the comments below, write 50 things you are grateful for… and after 2-3 minutes, just stop. Don’t think. Write fast. Don’t write what you think you are supposed to be grateful for. Write for anything large or small that you are grateful for.
Go!
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427 thoughts on “The 80/20 on Happiness – Part II”
friends,family,job,girlfriend,healthy food,exercise, nature, colleagues, boss, yoga teacher,AOL teacher,YMCA,Charlie Rose, Steve Jobs,Sidhu,Library,Will Smith,LinkedIn,
For Tony
for my project taking contour
for learning so fast how to be self-sufficient
for my health
for my being in excellent shape
for my beautiful house
for the little dog that came with my boyfriend
for the great shoes that I got
for the trips I took this past 2 years
for seeing my brother again
for experiencing so many new things
for making a difference at my workplace and for being acknowledged
for being able to help my mother
for my new car
for the beautiful house and location I live in
for the new friends I made
for learning so much about staring my own business
family, partner, love life, friends, health, confort, not rainning so much in october, my job, my capacity to think, enough money so I dont feel stuck, car, always busy with something, people inviting me to show my work at conferences, my chances to going back to my home contry and work in consultancy (if I follow Victor’s suggestions and get the job!), perfect work environment, calm, opportunities for personal growth, knowing stimulating people, feeling confident that I can stuff.
I am grateful for:
– Health
– My family
– My friends
– Love
– My boyfriend
– My job
– My apartment
– That I am intelligent
– That have good friends
– That have fun
– That can experience happiness
– Be able to smile and laugh
– That can sing, walk, move, see, hear, smell, talk
– Good communication, speaking and writing
– For my mom, my dad and my brother
– My aunts, uncles, cousins
– My accomplishments so far
– Languages that know
– Beauty of soul, body
– Loving sports
– My life
– Dots that connected perfectly
– Opportunities
– Money
– That can eat and enjoy it
– Empathy and compassion
Travel
Boyfriend vivas
family
brother
mila my kitty cat
bathtubs
water
television
friends
beds
nice pillows
essential oils
pants
good meals
vegan food
telephones
being able to talk to anyone wnywhere
writing letters
leather
water
vitamins
balancing hormones
nailpolish
sunny days
warm bubble baths
pretty cocktails
laughing
life
my sisters
love
my friends
my colleague Sophie
sport
triathlon
fluxmotion
having a classroom
the person at flux motion
warmth
red
my grandparents
technology
sound
colour
touch
Harry Potter
sunrise
laughter
silence
eye contact
children
patience
sunshine
memory
literature
mom and dad, stepparents who are wonderful people, a great beautiful brazilian wife, not a lot of money but enough to live, a house in a beautiful place, vibrant friends, a computer that helps me get a PhD, the opportunity to have been at harvard, a cool career although uncertain, challenging spirit, the ability to driive a car, the opportunity to go scuba diving next week Bon aruba, happy spirit, a cool a great bar around the corner, tyhe ability to love beer, the ability to feel deep emotions, the beauty of sadness, the powerful feeling of being in love, reading a lot of books, memories to fill a lovetime, disney movies
Katie
Baby
House
Mum
Dad
Grand
Sis
Lol
Trace
Jon
Emma
Joey
Watch
Living in LDN
Interesting work
Educated
Car
Youth
Health
Potential
Oppurtunity
Travel
Leigh
Daniel
Katie happy
Trina
Dane
Mom
Dad
Ann
Ron
Amanda
Scott and how he treats Amanda
Phillip, Emily, Isaiah
Friends! Like Kat and Tim who take care of us
And Matt and Julie who understand us
Dan and Jen who laughed so hard with us
Chequan, Abram, who inspire me.
Kristiane, who loves my wife so well.
My nephew who brings me and my boy such joy
My niece who reminds me of his mommy.
My giftedness
My chance to attend Harvard
My chance to go through Techstars
The fact that I’m done with Harvard and Techstars!
The chance to teach undergrads at HLS.
Philosophy
My faith – in God, and the ways that has supported me
My intellectual curiosity
The ways that’s transformed my worldview
Strong women
Brillaint friends and family
The joys of fishing with my dad, with my grandpa when I was young
The chances I’ve had to mentor younger guys
The mentors I’ve had, both men and women
My discovery of sales
My discover of things other than sales
My world-class travel experiences
The fact that I got to write a book
The place I live – America, modern erna
The place I live – NW, SO beautiful
The place I live – Seattle, so ambitious and pretty
My wife is beautiful
The outdoors
The Piano
Music
Books!
Language
Sunsets
The ocean
Aaron
Richie
Penn 2
GFU
Health
Trina’s grandparents
My living grandparents
Family around the world
touched a hedgehog today, free buss ride, free car ride back from work, my best friend Shaimah, my trustworthy business partner Richard, my parents, my cat, Aunt Rosalind, my iPhone I got as a gift, free lunch today, my siblings, i will see my family in two weeks, a distinction in my Masters, my gym membership, almond croissants, with tea, Aunt Linda and Uncle Faz, fit and health body, a support system, friends, Evernote, google docs, the opportunity to choose a career, choice of chocolates at the supermarket