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In my last article, I wrote about the 80/20 on Happiness. When you wake up in the morning and also right before bed, think of 3 things you are grateful for. Do this for a week and you will feel 10% happier.
One of my readers, Eric, sent me the original empirical research that measured the effectiveness of this approach. Thank you, Eric!
Since I received a ton of questions about this topic, I thought I’d elaborate on a few things.
- It is better to write down your 3 “grateful things” on a piece of paper than to just think about it. I tend to favor whatever is easier, because if something is easy, it is more likely to get done.
- The 3 things you are grateful for need not be the same things every time. Simply state in that moment whatever you are grateful for, no matter how big or small.
Now I know that many of you might be thinking this happiness stuff is way too woo woo for someone analytical like me. I know this because I used to think that too.
Then I had a thought.
What is the purpose of your career and all the hard work you are doing?
Is the goal to NOT be happy?
Of course not.
If the end game is happiness, then doesn’t it make sense to see if there is a shorter, faster, and easier way to reach it?
I promised to reveal why the gratitude exercise works.
But I thought I’d do just one more exercise first. I encourage you to do it. It will take only 2 minutes:
Scroll to the Comments section below to post a comment on this page. In your comment, list as many things as you are grateful for that you can think of in 2-3 minutes.
The key is to write fast.
Do not over think. Write for speed.
Okay, here is the kicker… (don’t freak out).
Try to write fifty things you are grateful for in 2-3 minutes.
After you are done, describe how you felt — before, during, and after the exercise.
Then read everyone else’s responses.
I promise you if you make the effort to do this 2-3 minute exercise (I know it’s a pain in today’s click-happy world), you will surprise yourself.
Trust me and give it a shot.
In the comments below, write 50 things you are grateful for… and after 2-3 minutes, just stop. Don’t think. Write fast. Don’t write what you think you are supposed to be grateful for. Write for anything large or small that you are grateful for.
Go!
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427 thoughts on “The 80/20 on Happiness – Part II”
family friends my house mu dog my body my mind my friends my grandpa’s farm the stars the sky my eyes my ability to think, to feel, to laugh, to cry, to love, opportunity to serve others, to make other people’s life better to improve my english to eat good food to enjoy music, to dance, to believe in something greater, to smile, to work, to drive a car, to help my family to play tennis to live! 🙂
healthy
parents are healthy
good job
good wife
eye is doing fine
brother is healthy
goot a great rating
making a good salary
great home
seattle has been awesome
gym
good classes
good friends
supernatural
decent in laws
golf
good golf group
thanks for the golf classes
pay down debt
mba degree
in the US
ivy league grad
great graduation
devcent bank account
stock account
decent 401k
speaking good english
low stress levels
tm
good tm group
sleeping well
advance course
going to india
family, friends, carreer,nature,art,intelligence,french,my body,funny jokes,good laughter, sex, music, money,clothes,accessories, boys,attractive men, america,europe, religion, jesus,the sea, my highschool, my own story, my fair skin, my beautiful hair, my eyes. the love of my life, food, salt and vinegar. paint. bright colors. the smell of flowers. perfume. freedom.
I’m grateful for
– good health, no pain
– a healthy and loving family
– good education I received
– a few very very good friends
– being able to speak and share
– good books nearby and a pencil
– to be full of hope for the future
– glad to go and see some friends in Belgium soon
– to have some chocolate
– to live in the most beautyful city on Earth
– no split in my mental math today
– cracked a case
– softest pillow and plumpy blanket for tonight
50 things that I am happy about — in 3 minutes
Food
Warm clothes
My nephew
My niece
My mother
My brother
My sister
My job
My colleagues
My bed
My phone
My computer
Accesss to internet
Access to the library
Alive
Healthy
My Education
My teachers
My mentors
My microwave
My oven
Frozen food from the supermarket
Getting Indian curries in the supermarket
For my health
For loved ones and friends
For Jenn
For having the opportunity to choose what to pursue
To express my feelings
To be happy
To enjoy the open air
To experience life’s challenges and to go through it
To eat good food
To share in the present moment
To laugh uncontrollably
To have the option to choose how to live
To give back to others
To go through emotions
For the fresh air to breathe
To learn new things
To meet amazing people
To feel love
To express and feel joy and sadness
To be able to improve on myself
To observe my thoughts
To forgive
To focus my energy on someone
To be myself and express how I want to feel
For pets
For friendships and moments that define you
For good music
For being able to dream
For those creative moments
To define and identify my identity
To enjoy good company and movies
To feel light touches on Jenn
To get excited
To tell jokes and make others laugh
To see Ava and Jenn be herself
Appreciate the little things in life
To challenge myself professionally and personally
Learn about my past
Study new languages
For Travelling
To massage Jenn
Choose my actions
Rejuvenate and take care of myself.
My parents..(gene lottery)
My wife …(love lottery)
My kid…(I think love lottery)
My current job and my education
I am thankful to lots of things…above things come to my mind now.
best boy friend, health, family love, good job, nice car, great friends, people i meet, having travelled, having a nice place to live in, being fit, having enough money, trusting my partner, know languages, good lunch at work, nice colleagues, swimming pool next door, christmas coming
food
friends
family
sun
shelter
warm clothes
cool clothes
smell
health
music
a car
income
laughter
emotions
good socks
shoes
mentors
football
humor
roof over my head
At first I stuck with the basics because they’re basic, but then I started to become more materialistic. Afterwards I realize that I am grateful to things that make me comfortable.
my job
job prospects
travel experience
life experience
work colleagues
friends at work
work environment
perks of the job
nice accommodation
financially secure
my health
the people who love me
my natural abilities
my inherited circumstances
freedom to choose my own path
my country
my youth
my height