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In my last article, I wrote about the 80/20 on Happiness. When you wake up in the morning and also right before bed, think of 3 things you are grateful for. Do this for a week and you will feel 10% happier.
One of my readers, Eric, sent me the original empirical research that measured the effectiveness of this approach. Thank you, Eric!
Since I received a ton of questions about this topic, I thought I’d elaborate on a few things.
- It is better to write down your 3 “grateful things” on a piece of paper than to just think about it. I tend to favor whatever is easier, because if something is easy, it is more likely to get done.
- The 3 things you are grateful for need not be the same things every time. Simply state in that moment whatever you are grateful for, no matter how big or small.
Now I know that many of you might be thinking this happiness stuff is way too woo woo for someone analytical like me. I know this because I used to think that too.
Then I had a thought.
What is the purpose of your career and all the hard work you are doing?
Is the goal to NOT be happy?
Of course not.
If the end game is happiness, then doesn’t it make sense to see if there is a shorter, faster, and easier way to reach it?
I promised to reveal why the gratitude exercise works.
But I thought I’d do just one more exercise first. I encourage you to do it. It will take only 2 minutes:
Scroll to the Comments section below to post a comment on this page. In your comment, list as many things as you are grateful for that you can think of in 2-3 minutes.
The key is to write fast.
Do not over think. Write for speed.
Okay, here is the kicker… (don’t freak out).
Try to write fifty things you are grateful for in 2-3 minutes.
After you are done, describe how you felt — before, during, and after the exercise.
Then read everyone else’s responses.
I promise you if you make the effort to do this 2-3 minute exercise (I know it’s a pain in today’s click-happy world), you will surprise yourself.
Trust me and give it a shot.
In the comments below, write 50 things you are grateful for… and after 2-3 minutes, just stop. Don’t think. Write fast. Don’t write what you think you are supposed to be grateful for. Write for anything large or small that you are grateful for.
Go!
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427 thoughts on “The 80/20 on Happiness – Part II”
My parents
My family
Their good health
My grandmother’s good health at her age
That she is still alive
My husband – that I found him
My work
The comfort I live in
The amount I travel
That I’m healthy (mostly)
That I have great colleagues
Good friends
Great apartment
Good food
Excellent education
Ability to stand on my own feet
Determination to get things done
Canada, India, US, UK
Discovering my love for Spain and Spanish
Instituto Cervantes
Friends from Spanish class
Friends from uni.
Being touch with everyone on Facebook
family
apartment
dolomites
self confidence
morning boxing
rock music
friends
guitar
rock climbing
my niece’s smile
hammock
education
health
sunshine
san francisco
salsa
my trip to south america
the view on mount Shasta, Gran Paradiso, Marmolada
capanna punta penia
meditation
spire
the wonderful professionals I work with
work visa
modern art
sculpture
fruit shakes in the morning
sleeping well
my newly decorated apartment
audiobooks
strong emotions
Loving family
Loving friends
Nice warm home
Mostly able to get things I want that aren’t too expensive
Musical talent
That I have a phone
That I have a bed to sleep on
That I have a phone and a computer
That my friends stand up for me
That I have a venture I am starting
That I am now beginning a new life
That I can afford school
That I am bilingual
That I have a passion
That I have a great team
That I have great coaches
That I have teachers who care about me
That I have mentors I learn from
That I have access to vast amount of educational material
That I have accomplished things
That I am not prosecuted (yet) for my beliefs
That I have a library near me
That I have a golf set
That my parents fully support my endeavors
That I have not yet realized my meaning of life
For my family
For good health
My home
My community
My village
My parents
My in laws
My friends
My education
My children’s schools which taught me a lot too.
Pleasing personality
Husband
My husband’s job
My garden
My household helps and driver
Prayer community
Wonderful mornings in my garden
Birds that wake me up every morning
My badminton buddies
Happiness, wife, son, health, money, food, safety , love, vision, colours, relidgion, taste, parents, being smart, education,
Friends
Love
Energy
Running
Explaining
teaching
learning
laughing
meeting
family
reading
writing
achieving
sporting
rushing a bit
playing with nephews
sharing with family
trust in people net to me
honesty
be myself
help friends
certain political activism
feeling attractive
having certain elegance
Economical freedom
Make plans
travel and meet new people
1.am grateful for my mother who give me a wonderful dream and beautiful life style.
2.grateful for my father in law who give me a powerful words and encouragement.
3. my friend who grow up with me and assist me anytime.
4. thanks for all doctors ,nurses and all staff in hospital. help me get through the tough decision and how to face my mom.
5. thanks for my competitor who teach me how to sales development.
my health
my wife
my family (brother, parents)
my job / career
living in London
friends
curiousity
love of reading
university / education
travel experiences
open mind
sports I practice
living standards
pets
patient
honest
not lying
polite
love healthy
structured
releigion man
try to help others
care about others
care about my family
love my wife
respect my wofe
love my child
love all the food mostly
supporting in the right conditions
love the spirit
Now i feel like I’ve moved a very heavy stone from my heart.