One of the wonderful things about writing for my newsletter is appreciating the incredible depth, talent and diversity of my readers.
In my last article, I wrote about the 80/20 on Happiness. When you wake up in the morning and also right before bed, think of 3 things you are grateful for. Do this for a week and you will feel 10% happier.
One of my readers, Eric, sent me the original empirical research that measured the effectiveness of this approach. Thank you, Eric!
Since I received a ton of questions about this topic, I thought I’d elaborate on a few things.
- It is better to write down your 3 “grateful things” on a piece of paper than to just think about it. I tend to favor whatever is easier, because if something is easy, it is more likely to get done.
- The 3 things you are grateful for need not be the same things every time. Simply state in that moment whatever you are grateful for, no matter how big or small.
Now I know that many of you might be thinking this happiness stuff is way too woo woo for someone analytical like me. I know this because I used to think that too.
Then I had a thought.
What is the purpose of your career and all the hard work you are doing?
Is the goal to NOT be happy?
Of course not.
If the end game is happiness, then doesn’t it make sense to see if there is a shorter, faster, and easier way to reach it?
I promised to reveal why the gratitude exercise works.
But I thought I’d do just one more exercise first. I encourage you to do it. It will take only 2 minutes:
Scroll to the Comments section below to post a comment on this page. In your comment, list as many things as you are grateful for that you can think of in 2-3 minutes.
The key is to write fast.
Do not over think. Write for speed.
Okay, here is the kicker… (don’t freak out).
Try to write fifty things you are grateful for in 2-3 minutes.
After you are done, describe how you felt — before, during, and after the exercise.
Then read everyone else’s responses.
I promise you if you make the effort to do this 2-3 minute exercise (I know it’s a pain in today’s click-happy world), you will surprise yourself.
Trust me and give it a shot.
In the comments below, write 50 things you are grateful for… and after 2-3 minutes, just stop. Don’t think. Write fast. Don’t write what you think you are supposed to be grateful for. Write for anything large or small that you are grateful for.
Go!
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427 thoughts on “The 80/20 on Happiness – Part II”
Familia, amigos, trabalho, saúde, morar no rio de janeiro, ter um bom emprego, pode correr, ir a praia, sair a noite, ouvir musica, ter uma boa casa, ter uma boa aparência, poder viajar todo ano, ter pessoas com quem eu posso contar, meu cachorro, comida japonesa, meu carro, poder ler livros, ver filmes, já ter vivido momentos incriveis que posso recordar, poder fazer planos sem ter que me preocupar tanto com dinheiro, ter muita vida pela frente.
1. Food
2. Water
3. Sleep
4. Dreaming at night
5. AC
6. Heaters
7. Job
8. Family
9. My condo
19. Beautiful city I live in
11. Foliage
12. Apples
13. Coffee
14. Hookah
15. University degree
16. University network
17. Access to great teachers and resources at boarding school
18. International experience across 5 school systems
19. Learned high school best friends are getting married! After 8 years of dating!
20. Internet
21. Smartphones
22. Calendars
23. Plastic surgery
24. Good skin
25. Art classes
26. Colors in the world
27. Chocolate
28. Flowers
29. Scented candles
30. Nice hair
31. Music
32. Podcasts
33. This blog
34. Tim Ferriss’ blog
35. Tim Ferriss’ books
36. Tim Ferriss’ podcasts
37. Basically, Tim Ferriss
38. Out of time but I’ll keep writing: having been in strategy consulting
39. Exposure to constant learning in corporate strategy
40. Puppies
41. Boyfriend (why is he so low on this list?)
42. Sex
43. Being a size 2
44. Recovering from ED
45. Human kindness
46. Non-profits
47. Entrepreneurship community
48. The pursuit of constant improvement and excellence
49. Forgiveness
50. Yoga
51. Chocolate (couldn’t resist adding that one…again!)
family, friends, gf,home,job, health, emotional inteligence, sun, pizza, U2, university at Rome, surf, book, climbing,TOMS ,beer, art, cinema, school, professors, Internship in Cameroun, ONU, newspaper, brother, sister, hometown, faith, posters, Milan, Rome, Amsterdam, grandparents, beauty, menotrs, ItaliaCamp, initiative,….
I thanks Carolyne for what she wrote before..those words are here to stay …
growing up in two places
immigrant background
chocolate
close friends
asian food
chinese supermarket
younger sister who listens (most of the time)
going to college
getting financial aid
living in a single
being healthy
having multiple pairs of shoes
living close to home
spaces to talk about issues i care about
my best friend
social media
iphone
noodle soup
study abroad
ablebodied
accessible professors
small classrooms
nature
Holy Spirit
Life and breath
Shelter
Food
lady J
parents
Siblings
Friends
Research
postgrad opportunity
work
cereals
rice
UCT
Library
Supervisor
Dr BJ
Telecoms
O&G
Nigeria
South Africa
Sound health
Rain
Sun
Cold
Bread
Biscuits
Plantain chips
Permits
Wisdom
Understanding
Knowledge
Protection
Long-Life
Challenges
Opportunities
1) be alive
2) breath fresh air and eat healthy food
3) I am healthy and able to run and do fun things when I want
4) My family are healthy and enjoy moments of joy when they can
5) I have a well paid job
6) I live in a dynamic and charming metro areas
7) I have the luxury to travel
8) I have a few great friends in my life
9) I have good co-workers
10) I went to prestigious school and am part of that close-knit community during and after graduation
11) I have great mentors who guided me along my development
12) I live in an era where the economy in my country was booming and I was able to see all the transformative changes
13) I started with my career in an unique environment with awesome boss and exposures
14) I got out of a relationship without too much damage and lots of great life lessons
15) I was able to travel to many places to see and experience
Avocados
Grandparents
Dad and mum
dog
sisters and family
orange juice
sunday morning
fridays
pizza
tent
moiuntain
sea
beauty
girls
smiles
laugh
fun
music
salsa
dancing
friends
art
wind
silence
sun
moon
stars
books
kids
motorbikes
water
river
speed
funny moments
happiness
love
l.
sex
world
planes
oceans
sailingboats
hiking
guitars
trees
shadows
beach
sleep
nights and mornings
philosophy
comics
roadtrips
traveling
snow
nature
My boyfriend
Mom
Dad
My family
Having a job
Savings
Being able to travel
Sun on my skin
Loving and caring friends
Being able to express myself
Lucky in my life
Great education
Health
Peace of mind
Good mentors
Good food ☺
Having survived rough days and still standing
Confidence in myself
Having a deep passion
Dreams
Technology and being able to stay connected
Hope and reassurance in my loved ones
No physical disability
have good family
healthy active body
have enough money
am in a good job
my wife also in a good job
have good friends
have a good house
good colleagues
nice educated son
1) Rupert, my dog
2) My family
3) My childhood
4) Food
5) Travels
6) Health
7) My job
8) My friends
9) Sleep
10) Egyptian cotton
11) Catdog
12) Internet
13) Growing up in America
14) Education
15) Humor
16) Our planet
17) Humanity
18) My aunt’s life with us, though brief
19) Breast cancer walk
20) Great colleagues
21) My Berkeley experience
22) Books
23) Coffee
24) Weekends
25) Good music