One of the wonderful things about writing for my newsletter is appreciating the incredible depth, talent and diversity of my readers.
In my last article, I wrote about the 80/20 on Happiness. When you wake up in the morning and also right before bed, think of 3 things you are grateful for. Do this for a week and you will feel 10% happier.
One of my readers, Eric, sent me the original empirical research that measured the effectiveness of this approach. Thank you, Eric!
Since I received a ton of questions about this topic, I thought I’d elaborate on a few things.
- It is better to write down your 3 “grateful things” on a piece of paper than to just think about it. I tend to favor whatever is easier, because if something is easy, it is more likely to get done.
- The 3 things you are grateful for need not be the same things every time. Simply state in that moment whatever you are grateful for, no matter how big or small.
Now I know that many of you might be thinking this happiness stuff is way too woo woo for someone analytical like me. I know this because I used to think that too.
Then I had a thought.
What is the purpose of your career and all the hard work you are doing?
Is the goal to NOT be happy?
Of course not.
If the end game is happiness, then doesn’t it make sense to see if there is a shorter, faster, and easier way to reach it?
I promised to reveal why the gratitude exercise works.
But I thought I’d do just one more exercise first. I encourage you to do it. It will take only 2 minutes:
Scroll to the Comments section below to post a comment on this page. In your comment, list as many things as you are grateful for that you can think of in 2-3 minutes.
The key is to write fast.
Do not over think. Write for speed.
Okay, here is the kicker… (don’t freak out).
Try to write fifty things you are grateful for in 2-3 minutes.
After you are done, describe how you felt — before, during, and after the exercise.
Then read everyone else’s responses.
I promise you if you make the effort to do this 2-3 minute exercise (I know it’s a pain in today’s click-happy world), you will surprise yourself.
Trust me and give it a shot.
In the comments below, write 50 things you are grateful for… and after 2-3 minutes, just stop. Don’t think. Write fast. Don’t write what you think you are supposed to be grateful for. Write for anything large or small that you are grateful for.
Go!
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427 thoughts on “The 80/20 on Happiness – Part II”
Being able to travel
Parents
Friends
Health
Education
Being born in a stable country
Peace
Chocolate
Fun
Steak
Knowing 4 languages
Voice
Yoga
Being sporty
Able to read, write and speak
Buenos Aires
Roberto
El Pasaje
Empanadas
Salad
Fruits
Having legs and arms
Sun
Vacation
Wifi
Coffee
Luck
My optimism
iPhone
People liking me
Moments
Going to the movie Theater
Whatsapp
My age
This website
Having a good time
Great music
Going out
Food in general
Especially sweets
Massage
Sleep
Bed
Home
My own room
Bread
Events
Meeting people
Telling stories
A future I’m looking too: a full life ahead of me
To fish, to play futbol, to do sport, to enjoy work thanks to great collegues, to travel, to go out party, the blue sky of Barcelona, to runn next to the see, to take a bicing, to laught, to wish happy birthday to a friend, to visit my family, to achieve great results into my work, to see my flowers growing, to give money to a homeless guy, to help a friend, to have a home, my girlfriend, the dogs,to drive my moto, to listen to music,
The natural next question would be how do you reconcile an attitude of gratitude with being achievement oriented? How do you still strive and have motivation to do more while still being grateful? I don’t find it a great scenario to be grateful and staying in place (without further developing). Are the two truly mutually exclusive?
grateful for:
family
little siblings
laughter
trampolines
dogs
affection
sunshine
rain
a beautiful world to live in
delicious food
sriracha sauce
senses
snuggles
comfortable beds
hot showers
cold water in the summer
clothing
ability to buy things that I want rather than need
coworkers who laugh
interesting work
a brain that can provide me with a good life
emotional connections
fruit
loving mentors
learning
reading
magazines
the internet
physical activity
curiosity
randomness in the world
the ability to learn
kids
grandparents
principles
challenges
family
friends
life
house
love
food
limbs
people around me
job
some money
eyesight
decent health
routine
warm clothes
gadgets
fresh air
food
light and sunshine
flowers
fruits
dogs
kids
plants
parks
clear blue sky
sea
river
nature
My family
My wonderful and kind girlfriend
A sister who is always looking out for me
My job that is finally something where I wake-up and want to go to work
Ice cream
Our pet cat Inca
The mountains
Skiing
My grandfather for serving in WWII and being so fun and to be around
A sunny day
She scent of pine trees
The fun of learning science
The Possibility To have to go to the university even it is not in the ” Ivy League”
to figure out what does it means work for live
extremely motivated
be corageous
be stoic
be capable to sacrifice
my family
to have a father
to have a father who teach me how hard work is important
to have the example of my father
to have my mother
to have a mother who teach me how important is be kind
to have a house
eat every day
never give up
The sustain of my family
to be smart
to have a wonderful girlfriend
to be capable to love my girlfriend
enjoy the nature
play football
the windy night
the cold in the early morning in summer
the tiredness after studing a lot
the satisfaction after an achievement
my cats
comfortable shoes
my suit
my old pc
my old car
convinction That I Will Achieve my goals
the convictions That Isimportant do your best
the rain while you come back at home at night
the hugs of my girl
the kiss of my mother
heart of my father
the admiration of my sister
wake up in the morning
the water
the grass
Pizza
the ravens
The friends
capable to see
to be simple
the sun
the beer
my roots
my village
milk
I’m thankful for
1. my wife and kids
2. football
3. my friends
4. my health
5. Rain
6. living in a four season city
7. Chicago-Evanston
8. Travelling
9. Hockey season
10. watching my kids play sports
11. watching my kids play music
12. my kids smiles
13. Learning something new
14. Getting back out to exercise
15. My sisters
16. My parents coming to visit me
17. Having a home where my family can stay
18. My sister-in-law who babysitsa my kids
19. Again my sister-in-law for everything that she does for us.
20. Being safe
21. Taking the Metra to work
22. Access to victor Changs news letter
Out of time
christ
my children
my ex wife
my father
my mother
my grandmother
my brother
where I am in life now
my girlfriend
my best friend
my other best friend
my other best friend
music
that I paint
that I can feel pairings
that I can feel music
that I like art
that I think
that I am sensitive
that I can play music
that I can write
that I read
that I am happy with people
that I smile
that I can capture a glance
that I can feel emotions
that my children are healthy
that my kids are happy
that I will be able to raise my children
that my ex is healthy and happy
that my ex-inlaws are good people
that the friends I’m making are nice people
that I finally have enough money to not think about it all day
that I have a job
that I am living where i am living at
that I am healthy
that I can solve problems
that I dream
that I am still in love with life after all the terrible things
that I still want to learn
that I still believe in people
that I still believe in love
that I still believe in God
that I am more calm now
that I can deal with my emotions more
… after 3 minutes arrived at 46! not bad!
What a wonderful exercise!! Funny what I wrote… quite nice!!
my parents, my brother, all the beautiful people i recently met, my new roomate, my old roomate, yoga, spiritual discovery and life long mastery, leaving my old job, starting a new job, exciting new business opportunity. i am grateful for this weather, the rain, the sun, the mornings when the sunlight caresses my face, my guitar, my ability to play music, to write, to express myself to others clearly, my growing ability to listen, to have compassion and to appreciate others, for my new partner who is also my new experience opener, i am grateful for my health, my body, the good food i eat daily, the good stuff i smoke weekly, for all the good people and their marketing efforts reaching my inbox and enlightening me with higher vibrations, to Victor, to mindvalley, to all sorts of blogs and newsletters than teach and give out free wisdom and knowledge, to my loved ones.