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In my last article, I wrote about the 80/20 on Happiness. When you wake up in the morning and also right before bed, think of 3 things you are grateful for. Do this for a week and you will feel 10% happier.
One of my readers, Eric, sent me the original empirical research that measured the effectiveness of this approach. Thank you, Eric!
Since I received a ton of questions about this topic, I thought I’d elaborate on a few things.
- It is better to write down your 3 “grateful things” on a piece of paper than to just think about it. I tend to favor whatever is easier, because if something is easy, it is more likely to get done.
- The 3 things you are grateful for need not be the same things every time. Simply state in that moment whatever you are grateful for, no matter how big or small.
Now I know that many of you might be thinking this happiness stuff is way too woo woo for someone analytical like me. I know this because I used to think that too.
Then I had a thought.
What is the purpose of your career and all the hard work you are doing?
Is the goal to NOT be happy?
Of course not.
If the end game is happiness, then doesn’t it make sense to see if there is a shorter, faster, and easier way to reach it?
I promised to reveal why the gratitude exercise works.
But I thought I’d do just one more exercise first. I encourage you to do it. It will take only 2 minutes:
Scroll to the Comments section below to post a comment on this page. In your comment, list as many things as you are grateful for that you can think of in 2-3 minutes.
The key is to write fast.
Do not over think. Write for speed.
Okay, here is the kicker… (don’t freak out).
Try to write fifty things you are grateful for in 2-3 minutes.
After you are done, describe how you felt — before, during, and after the exercise.
Then read everyone else’s responses.
I promise you if you make the effort to do this 2-3 minute exercise (I know it’s a pain in today’s click-happy world), you will surprise yourself.
Trust me and give it a shot.
In the comments below, write 50 things you are grateful for… and after 2-3 minutes, just stop. Don’t think. Write fast. Don’t write what you think you are supposed to be grateful for. Write for anything large or small that you are grateful for.
Go!
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427 thoughts on “The 80/20 on Happiness – Part II”
loving mother
accepting sister
kind grandfather
loving grandmother
university education
good job
scholarship
polyglot
eurotrip
travel to top destinations
great flatmates
easy hookups
slim fit
not getting fat ever
yoga
swimming
luxury goods
clean water
healthy food
medical facilities
multicultural background
faith
brought up in the tropics
never been poor
well family
stable childhood
rough childhood that made me strong
braces
Here goes:
This post
sense of smell
exercise, today, hands, legs, mum, dad, flowers,
music, books, thinking, smile, the feeling of bliss surging in me,
stories, adventures, pencils, grass, snow, nature, chance to travel the world (i want to), sunshine, snowfall, brother, writing, light meal, fruits, sleep, lazing around, chance to daydream, sunshine on my face on a lazy afternoon with a book in my hand, mythology, movement, internet, relations, cousins, uncles , aunts, friends,
Feels good to be alive 🙂
Thanks
My boyfrind
My family
My friends
My healthy back
My new job
My new apartment
My new car
My higher salary
My vather alive
My great boss
To be able to see
That I can run again
That I feel good every morning
I just met the man of my live
I live in a beautiful house
I live in of the best places of the world: Barcelona
I have an illness but I amb allow to live very well
I have a family that loves a lot
I have a family that is healthy and lives well
I have a job
I love and enjoy my job even when I am very streessed
I have very high quality of life
I can buy things that I like
I travel a lot, and I love it
My job is very flexible, I don’t have to be puntual and I can work from my house
I have very good friends
I don’t have any big problem, just my illness, but I can handle it
I am young but I have enjoyed a lot of things in my live
I have gone to beautiful places
I am in shape, so I can exercise, though I should do it more
I constantly learn in my job, almost every day
I am surrounded by very itnerested people
I have achieved almost all goals that I fixed in my live
I am free to do what I want
I can see, feel, touch, hear, taste and smell
I can eat everything that I want, and I love eating.
I have access to super interesting readings, and I enjoy reading a lot
I am living in one of the best eras ever. The world has changed a lot and is going to change even more. And I am going to see it.
Right now, I am living one of the best moments of my live
I am grateful that I have my arms and legs, that I have a healthy body I can move, that I am regarded well by my friends and colleagues, that I have my eyesight, that I have a girl who loves me, I am grateful that I have a great car, that I live in San Francisco, that the weather is nice and beautiful tonight. I am grateful that I am a good writer, that I am a good artist, that I can bridge the gap between my artistic and analytical side. I am grateful that I’m making a shitton of money, that all my travel is paid for. I am grateful that I am going to Europe in a few months, and going to Asia in a few weeks. I am grateful that I have people that absolutely look up to me. I am grateful that my family wants me to be successful and have given me the equipment to thrive. I am grateful that I am ambitious and have what it takes.
great job
lots of opportunities ahead
youth
skills and stamina
interesting work
health
healthy family
loving family
loving girlfriend
looks
great education
intelligence
father
mother
grandfather
grandmother
charisma
good friends
managers who like me
colleagues who like me
living in great area
lots of financial support
going back to great school soon
optimism
sister
car
financial freedom to buy almost whatever I want
my girls
can see
healthy
taste good food
watching movies
drink
have a family
have pararents
have a brother
they all love me
kids are health
kids are happy
have a job
do what I want to do
plan for the future
have good future plan
have good friends
they are helpful
have a room
have something to eat
sunny day
raining day since I like to think sometimes
like writing
and my writing is pretty good
have some papers for publication
family, istanbul, fullmoon, education, friends, health, being different, my glasses, chocolate, dark chocolate, having sailed, swimming, cooking, improv acting, writing, fresh air, sunlight
my fortunate position in life and society
my beautiful parents for their constant nuturing
my inspirational sister
my gorgeous girlfriend
my mental mates
the sun
the first taste of summer
the feel of sea mist on a hot summer’s day
the beach
waves
servitude of others
milkshakes
clean food
two legs to run and exercise with
salads
mozart
music
the gift of hearing
beethoven
dark electronic music
rythm
jazz music
parks
cats
dogs
David Attenborough
Film
Coffee
Tea
The rain outside
Vegies
Mathematics
Logic
Discourse
Language
Travel and the mobility to travel
my apt.
my car
job
dinner
exercise
yoga instructor to be my bf
a cat at home
plants at home
traveling plans
holidays
ability to read and think
dresses
leather jacket
great friends
nice neighbors
freedom to paint my own future
freedom of speech
proficient in 3 languages