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In my last article, I wrote about the 80/20 on Happiness. When you wake up in the morning and also right before bed, think of 3 things you are grateful for. Do this for a week and you will feel 10% happier.
One of my readers, Eric, sent me the original empirical research that measured the effectiveness of this approach. Thank you, Eric!
Since I received a ton of questions about this topic, I thought I’d elaborate on a few things.
- It is better to write down your 3 “grateful things” on a piece of paper than to just think about it. I tend to favor whatever is easier, because if something is easy, it is more likely to get done.
- The 3 things you are grateful for need not be the same things every time. Simply state in that moment whatever you are grateful for, no matter how big or small.
Now I know that many of you might be thinking this happiness stuff is way too woo woo for someone analytical like me. I know this because I used to think that too.
Then I had a thought.
What is the purpose of your career and all the hard work you are doing?
Is the goal to NOT be happy?
Of course not.
If the end game is happiness, then doesn’t it make sense to see if there is a shorter, faster, and easier way to reach it?
I promised to reveal why the gratitude exercise works.
But I thought I’d do just one more exercise first. I encourage you to do it. It will take only 2 minutes:
Scroll to the Comments section below to post a comment on this page. In your comment, list as many things as you are grateful for that you can think of in 2-3 minutes.
The key is to write fast.
Do not over think. Write for speed.
Okay, here is the kicker… (don’t freak out).
Try to write fifty things you are grateful for in 2-3 minutes.
After you are done, describe how you felt — before, during, and after the exercise.
Then read everyone else’s responses.
I promise you if you make the effort to do this 2-3 minute exercise (I know it’s a pain in today’s click-happy world), you will surprise yourself.
Trust me and give it a shot.
In the comments below, write 50 things you are grateful for… and after 2-3 minutes, just stop. Don’t think. Write fast. Don’t write what you think you are supposed to be grateful for. Write for anything large or small that you are grateful for.
Go!
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427 thoughts on “The 80/20 on Happiness – Part II”
Family – parents, 2 loving brothers, amazing sister-in-law. Boyfriend – first at 27 years of age. God’s provision. Job that allows a lot of freedom. New home with lovely flower garden. Herbs planted yesterday. Yummy carrot and apple home-made muffin – I made up the flour-free recipe myself and just ate one. Internet. Money to buy a new phone to replace an old one. Car and enough money to buy petrol to drive wherever I want to whenever I want to. Many wonderful friends. Letter from a special friend in another country that I received today. Friendly colleagues to chat to during tea time. Being able to make the day of people I work with at other company simply by being unexpectedly courteous, human and friendly. Water! To drink and to wash with. Encouragement through newsletters. Enough clothes for different seasons. Parents who support and love and help me and who gets pleasure from adding to my love rather than expecting me to fill their voids. Being able to give money to charities and worthy causes.
My wife, kids, garden, money, nature, family, friends, job, colleagues, travel, beautiful autumn weather, birds, water, phone, world, fun, jokes, entertainment, summer, Christmas, sport
My health
My wife
My family
My friends
My guitar
My new amplifier
My extended family
Music
My creative moments
A nice coffee
Interacting with people
Connection with nature
My freedom at work, at home, in general
My purchasing power
Helping my family
My god sons and god daughter
Arranging activities for my friends
health, beauty, energy, family, friends, food, intelligence, money, life, exercise, love, location, religion, comfort, nature, opportunity, education, attention, medication, femininity, internet, trashy tv, past experiences, personality, kindness, generosity, empathy, gentleness, mentorship, life
Family
Friends
Snickers
Winston
Eye sight
Creativity
Hope
Left handed
Intelligence
The beach
Sailing
My bed
Snuggle blankets
Drawing
School
Pretty shoes
Clothes in general
Delicious food
Heat
Air conditioning (when available)
The internet
The ability to learn
To be alive
To know I can do better
Soccer
Fall tree leaves
My husband is always encouraging, my grandparents are all alive, I have travelled so many countries, I am healthy, I don’t have to worry about whether I have enough food to eat, I am able to be admitted by an IVY school, I am exposed to different types of thoughts, I have the opportunity to work for World leaders, have so many friends that care about me in all corners of the world, I am happy that I come from a country that is emerging and is becoming more and more important in the world, I am happy that I am about to graduate.
The fact that I am able to wake up feeling healthy, the sun, food, access to clean water, material stability/comfort, access to a whole bunch of resources, friends, family, interview with Bain, God.
– My family (parents, wife & son)
– My education
– having a job I like
– having some very good friends
– that I dont need to worry about where the next meal will come from
– I have a house that serves more than my basic needs
– having the freedom to do what I want and when I want it
– having some good mentors
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Parents
house
sister come best friend
true friends
healthy body
independent life
supportive family
meet so many new people every day and learn from their experiences
growing career
all challenges in life- that made me believe myself
All moments in life with loved one’s
Support of relatives
understanding parents
Sister cum good advisor
Office with peaceful and supportive colleagues
A heart given my god to see and feel my dreams
All good people in world who help me in making my dream come true.
Ability to dance and enjoy life
cab to avoid too much public transport
God to always show me the right path and the way to achieve my dreams whenever I am shattered
respectful job;decent income;good/always improving lifestyle;parents support;family support;good friends;living in a law abiding city/country;