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In my last article, I wrote about the 80/20 on Happiness. When you wake up in the morning and also right before bed, think of 3 things you are grateful for. Do this for a week and you will feel 10% happier.
One of my readers, Eric, sent me the original empirical research that measured the effectiveness of this approach. Thank you, Eric!
Since I received a ton of questions about this topic, I thought I’d elaborate on a few things.
- It is better to write down your 3 “grateful things” on a piece of paper than to just think about it. I tend to favor whatever is easier, because if something is easy, it is more likely to get done.
- The 3 things you are grateful for need not be the same things every time. Simply state in that moment whatever you are grateful for, no matter how big or small.
Now I know that many of you might be thinking this happiness stuff is way too woo woo for someone analytical like me. I know this because I used to think that too.
Then I had a thought.
What is the purpose of your career and all the hard work you are doing?
Is the goal to NOT be happy?
Of course not.
If the end game is happiness, then doesn’t it make sense to see if there is a shorter, faster, and easier way to reach it?
I promised to reveal why the gratitude exercise works.
But I thought I’d do just one more exercise first. I encourage you to do it. It will take only 2 minutes:
Scroll to the Comments section below to post a comment on this page. In your comment, list as many things as you are grateful for that you can think of in 2-3 minutes.
The key is to write fast.
Do not over think. Write for speed.
Okay, here is the kicker… (don’t freak out).
Try to write fifty things you are grateful for in 2-3 minutes.
After you are done, describe how you felt — before, during, and after the exercise.
Then read everyone else’s responses.
I promise you if you make the effort to do this 2-3 minute exercise (I know it’s a pain in today’s click-happy world), you will surprise yourself.
Trust me and give it a shot.
In the comments below, write 50 things you are grateful for… and after 2-3 minutes, just stop. Don’t think. Write fast. Don’t write what you think you are supposed to be grateful for. Write for anything large or small that you are grateful for.
Go!
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427 thoughts on “The 80/20 on Happiness – Part II”
Thanks!
I’m grateful for:
My parents
My brothers and sisters
Growing up in Montana
Going to a Christian university
Getting my first job
Getting my first car
The friends I’ve met
The friends I’ve kept
My health
My strong body and mind
My iphone and laptop
My job and income
My access to clean food
My access to clean water
The safety of my city and home
Access to travel
Access to new countries
Access to new experiences
Access to new ideas
For my mistakes that shaped me
For the many supervisors who have taught me so much
For my new boss
For CaseInterview.com (!)
post script — I’m a little surprised that I wasn’t able to write more in a 3 minute period. Maybe I was too in my own head.
I am grateful for my mother and my gf. I am grateful that I am healthy and intelligent. I am grateful for myself. I am grateful for all the friends I made in the life. I am grateful for all the opportunities I had and will have. I am grateful for being able to see, taste, smell, feel and being alive. I am grateful your wisdom and knowledge. I am grateful that I don’t need to worry about material needs. I am grateful for everyone who love and care about me. I am grateful for myself, who have always been here with me.
My colleagues, my friends, my family, beer :), going out, being healthy, living in a well-fare country, peace, no violence aroudn me, books, good food, good drinks, personal wellfare, being able to sport, watching football, playing football, working for a football club, getting career chances, being able to learn, willingness to learn, opportunities to meet new people, school, people who are willing to help you, the economy, technology, clothing, facebook, online games, offline games…
Before: how am I gonna do this? Do I know enough things to be grateful for?
During: I could laugh… it was fun to come up with new things.
After: Relaxed, and I was surprised of how many things there are for which you are grateful, even though it is not always conscious.
Parents, Wife, Brother, Family, Education, God, health, Friends
life in itself
family, friends, education, travels, professional experience, home, parties, body, health, bathroom, food, music, entertainment, achievement, professors, group coursework’s, books, technology, hygiene, glasses, contact lenses, father, mother, grandma, sisters, grandma’s weekly dinners, time spent with mother, family lunches, beach workout, sun, warm weather, portuguese food, Skype, mentors, wm, B., N.
1- my loved ones are alive and in fine health.
2- they still trust me and respect me . i feel loved being around them.
3- i realize higher truths about life everyday and cherish it whenever i gain wisdom.
I am grateful for my support network of friends, Stephen, my mom and brother. I also love that I can live with a roof over my head and am able to support myself for the most part. I love that I now can drive! I am grateful for always having something to eat and while I’m not enjoying my work, I can at least say I have a job. I love also knowing that I have a great bed to sleep in at night after those long days. I am grateful for my friends who are far but make time to catch up. I am grateful that the essentials are not much of an issue
my parent, being alive, having homecooked food, being healthy, having friends, having a quality conversation with my friend, having grapes to eat, having a school to go to, having things to fight for, people that are willing to fight for me, being clean and comfortable, being able to run, sweat, jump and laugh, having things to look forward to everyday, having a goal to move towards, being able to be me freely, feeling safe in my environment, the nice weather today, the nicest gestures from my sisters, smooth sailing project works, being able to train for badminton tomorrow, having something to smile at always 🙂