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In my last article, I wrote about the 80/20 on Happiness. When you wake up in the morning and also right before bed, think of 3 things you are grateful for. Do this for a week and you will feel 10% happier.
One of my readers, Eric, sent me the original empirical research that measured the effectiveness of this approach. Thank you, Eric!
Since I received a ton of questions about this topic, I thought I’d elaborate on a few things.
- It is better to write down your 3 “grateful things” on a piece of paper than to just think about it. I tend to favor whatever is easier, because if something is easy, it is more likely to get done.
- The 3 things you are grateful for need not be the same things every time. Simply state in that moment whatever you are grateful for, no matter how big or small.
Now I know that many of you might be thinking this happiness stuff is way too woo woo for someone analytical like me. I know this because I used to think that too.
Then I had a thought.
What is the purpose of your career and all the hard work you are doing?
Is the goal to NOT be happy?
Of course not.
If the end game is happiness, then doesn’t it make sense to see if there is a shorter, faster, and easier way to reach it?
I promised to reveal why the gratitude exercise works.
But I thought I’d do just one more exercise first. I encourage you to do it. It will take only 2 minutes:
Scroll to the Comments section below to post a comment on this page. In your comment, list as many things as you are grateful for that you can think of in 2-3 minutes.
The key is to write fast.
Do not over think. Write for speed.
Okay, here is the kicker… (don’t freak out).
Try to write fifty things you are grateful for in 2-3 minutes.
After you are done, describe how you felt — before, during, and after the exercise.
Then read everyone else’s responses.
I promise you if you make the effort to do this 2-3 minute exercise (I know it’s a pain in today’s click-happy world), you will surprise yourself.
Trust me and give it a shot.
In the comments below, write 50 things you are grateful for… and after 2-3 minutes, just stop. Don’t think. Write fast. Don’t write what you think you are supposed to be grateful for. Write for anything large or small that you are grateful for.
Go!
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427 thoughts on “The 80/20 on Happiness – Part II”
a healthy family
being healthy
parents that enjoy spending time with me
a best friend
friends
being able to play soccer
being able to travel
a great education
being able to feed myself
living in the US
my best friend from Argentina
getting to see Europe this summer
my family
my health
my education
my upbringing
my job
my high income
my ability to socilaize
my friends
my ambitions
my experiences
the opportunities I have
my car
my attitude
my brain
my car
my creativity
my learning capacity
my travels
my parent’s support
my family’s love
50 Things I am grateful for:
1. I could contribute to donate USD 210 to buy a cow collectively with some other people for Eid ul Adha/Qurban Holy Day.
2. I managed to take vacation, squeezing in between busy days as small business owner. This week I visit my Grandma and Dad out of town, and continue to take a trip to Jogja, a cultural city in Central Java.
3. I just got contacted by a new client. Worth of USD 140, yay!
4. I am happy that my family members are safe.
5. I am happy that I managed to embrace courage in setting clear boundaries with clients.
6. I am happy I am getting the book I want to read, Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway, from a friend in Aussie who will come to Surabaya this month.
7. I am happy a client in Aussie told me she is happy with my start-up’s service.
8. I am happy that more people and friends, especially, are contacting me to enroll for the online course I am opening.
9. I am grateful I can eat more fruits now.
10. I am happy that I am getting a bit fatter and chubbier now. 🙂
11. I am grateful for the steady income, cash flow, client base.
12. I am grateful I manage to recruit good team. A solid and loyal one.
13. I am happy slowly but sure I succeed in dealing with my anxiety disorder.
14. I am happy I no longer hold deep grudges to some people who have hurt me in the past.
15. I am grateful I bought new travel bag. Really handy.
16. Thanks to Randy and Bagus, my laptop works again!
17. I have an assistant to help me sort my excessive Facebook posts out. Yay.
18. I am happy I could print some sheets of invoices for one of my fav clients.
19. I am grateful, I finished reading Rework last night. Good tips.
20. I am grateful for the clean water.
21. I am happy I got the tickets to Jogja and Surabaya already.
22. I am happy I am not alone in facing my anxiety syndrome. Fellow anxiety sufferers know how awful the feeling is.
23. 24. 25. Etc…
And more to come. My relationship life seems brighter and clearer now. 🙂
Aragorn – Pet dog
My mum
my dad
my sister
my best friends
my health
my degrees
my car
the sound system in my car
my iPhone
music!!
soccer
rugby
tennis
formula 1
comedy movies
action/suspense movies
the internet
victor cheng
books!
laughter
spending time in the sun
food!
pretty girls
the smell of fresh linen
braai’s my voice
my family
my maid – Dudu
my aunties and uncles
medical technology and modern medicine
mr shama
god and his grace
My family
My Job
Apple products
My cars
My scale model aircrafts
passion to move ahead
passion for consulting
passion for travel
My books
My friends
time spend with family during festivities
ability to cook food
make people happy with the food i cook
my effort to nt be overtly aggressive
chirping bird sounds on youtube
MTV Coke Studio
War movies
Boston Legal
James Spader
Satyajit ray
all the support that i get from family
– Access to great books
– Dad having access to this nice guest house I’m in
– Caring girlfriend who puts up wtih my eccentricities
– Stamina to still be able to climb up treks
– Friends who’d come along with me for work at 3 in the morning
– Other friends who are better than I am at understanding the core of things, and who I can look up to
– Having a variety of devices at age 25, when my parents can’t use them even till today
– Not being bedridden because of a disease
– Being on a truly lazy vactio nwhere I have to be lazy, since there is nothing to do
– Money to buy internet to get this connection up and running. Not having to think about it at all
– Finishing my coursera course deliverables well ahead of time
– air-conditioning
– My car
– Dad being a lawyer
– The food we just had (homemade stuff, even though we are a fair bit away from home)
– Having enough money to be able to take radio cabs for every trip on this vacation
I’m healthy. Have two lovely kids. So happy at work. have a great husband. all parents (in laws) are in good shape. Using my brain everyday. can plan for things. not under lots of financial pressure. Being appreciated. have so many good friends. I live in a beautiful peaceful and friendly place. So close to work/no commute. my opinion matters at work and at home.
1. My good health
2. Opportunity to live so comfortably
3. My lovely boyfriend, family and friends
4. To travel and experience so much in life
5. My education
6. Finally getting the role I wanted at work
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job / career
google
health
options
passport
friends
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paul
manager
colleagues
team
experiences
My wife
My mom
My dad
My car
My lunch today
My job
My education
My apartment
My family and relatives
My friends
Being able to see
My vision
Being able to walk
Being able to talk
Being able to type this message
Reading the messages you send
Being alive
Having people who love me
Having money in the bank
Having Shoes, clothes, watches, cell phone…
My office
My bed
My couch
My PC and TV
having 2-3 minutes to write this message
Being able to play sports I love