One of the wonderful things about writing for my newsletter is appreciating the incredible depth, talent and diversity of my readers.
In my last article, I wrote about the 80/20 on Happiness. When you wake up in the morning and also right before bed, think of 3 things you are grateful for. Do this for a week and you will feel 10% happier.
One of my readers, Eric, sent me the original empirical research that measured the effectiveness of this approach. Thank you, Eric!
Since I received a ton of questions about this topic, I thought I’d elaborate on a few things.
- It is better to write down your 3 “grateful things” on a piece of paper than to just think about it. I tend to favor whatever is easier, because if something is easy, it is more likely to get done.
- The 3 things you are grateful for need not be the same things every time. Simply state in that moment whatever you are grateful for, no matter how big or small.
Now I know that many of you might be thinking this happiness stuff is way too woo woo for someone analytical like me. I know this because I used to think that too.
Then I had a thought.
What is the purpose of your career and all the hard work you are doing?
Is the goal to NOT be happy?
Of course not.
If the end game is happiness, then doesn’t it make sense to see if there is a shorter, faster, and easier way to reach it?
I promised to reveal why the gratitude exercise works.
But I thought I’d do just one more exercise first. I encourage you to do it. It will take only 2 minutes:
Scroll to the Comments section below to post a comment on this page. In your comment, list as many things as you are grateful for that you can think of in 2-3 minutes.
The key is to write fast.
Do not over think. Write for speed.
Okay, here is the kicker… (don’t freak out).
Try to write fifty things you are grateful for in 2-3 minutes.
After you are done, describe how you felt — before, during, and after the exercise.
Then read everyone else’s responses.
I promise you if you make the effort to do this 2-3 minute exercise (I know it’s a pain in today’s click-happy world), you will surprise yourself.
Trust me and give it a shot.
In the comments below, write 50 things you are grateful for… and after 2-3 minutes, just stop. Don’t think. Write fast. Don’t write what you think you are supposed to be grateful for. Write for anything large or small that you are grateful for.
Go!
How to Live an Amazing Life – Sign Up for Free Tips and Strategies for your Career and Life.
This form collects your name and email so that we can add you to our email list that delivers the free resources you are requesting. Check out our privacy policy for details on how we protect and manager your submitted data.
We’ll never spam you or share your email. Unsubscribe at any time.
427 thoughts on “The 80/20 on Happiness – Part II”
my parents
my brothers
my family who never backs off when i’m in need
my girlfriend whos with me for 7 years
my cofounder whos with me after 3 companies
my friends
my staff , my colleages who looks up and after me
my clients who trusts me
my grandmother
my aunt and uncle
my gym buddy
my easy access to laptop and ipad to work anywhere and everywhere
my good health
grateful for my parents and family good health
have the freedom to do what I like to do
freedom to make a living doing what I enjoy doing
to work anywhere i want
to built on skills which i’m good at
Healthy family, stable job, some friends, enjoy good dinners, convenient commute, loving husband, owning a condo, safe living area, no polution, nice in-laws, some good coworkers
1. Have a job
2. The job is in finance and I like finance
3. A loving husband
4. A loving family
5. Loving parents in law
6. Wonderful friends
7. Nice roommate
8. Living in America
9. Much better income this year than any others
10. Nice co workers
11. Content with my body
12. Graduated from an American Uni
13. Good place to stay. Not a homeless.
14. Eat whatever I want.
15. A gym member
16. Stay close to work
17. Stay close to downtown.
18. Enjoy free time during the weekend
19. Have dreams
20. Determination gene from family.
21. Smart
22. Can speak English
23. Can speak Vietnamese
24. Knowing what I want
25. Have electricity
26. A smart phone
27. Internet
28. Laptop
29. Time for myself after work
30. Love
New York. Summer and sunshine. Those rare moments when you meet someone and know instantly they are your friend. Self-improvement. French Crisp Ice-Cream. Coffee Ice-Cream. Icre-Cream in general. Hot cups of chai. Hot water. Running water. Internet. Chocolate. Family that cares about you. An amazing roommate who came out of nowhere and is such a good friend to me, always understanding and perpetually supportive and happy. Good health. Being forgiving. Coincidences. Home cooking. Eating out. That feeling when you do something new. Watching yourself do things you never thought you would be comfortable doing. Colourful fruits and vegetables. Boys. Tinder – yes Tinder. Airplanes. My little brother especially. Girlfriends all over the place. This opportunity to be anonymous.
Things I’m grateful for
My job
My boyfriend
Ability to have lots of interesting side work
Travel
Holiday time
Great friends
Lots of interesting experiences in the past and future
Health
Family
A warm house to live in
Clothing
A safe city
Food in the fridge
An education
My teeth straightened out
My eyes corrected with laser vision
Ability to play piano
Ability to speak three languages
Ability to be a doctor
my wife
getting married 2 months ago
my job
animals
sunshine
green grass
fruit
friends
my wife’s kisses
sex
our home
Jesus Christ
serving a mission
cool clothes
music
my car
shoes
carpet
clouds
thunder storms
hugs
feeling loved
good health
technology
modern medicine
education
a good family
loving parents
America
freedoms
freedom of religion
mentors
dreams
sleeping
my brothers and sisters
my adorable nieces/nephews
the diversity of the world and the chance to travel and learn
having food in my cupboards
my new home
the opportunity to grow at work and be challenged intellectually
The Book of Mormon/The Bible
The internet and the accessibility of knowledge
My morning tea
Sponsored cab
Kindle and Amazon
Doctors
Things at home are better
Health
Yoga
Friends
Work
Videos n Audio
Music
Chants
Internet
Food
Bed
Sleep
Health
Family
English
Friends
Body
House
Facilities
Reading
Love
Neighbors
Time
Bless
Ability
Money
Investment lessons
Seth Klarman
Warren Buffett
Bravity
Stock market
Internet
Education
Amazon
Torrent
Samsung Note series
I am grateful for…
an incredible loving family.
a community of friends that I can count as family.
I can run, hike, walk, play tennis, etc.
a challenging job.
my education.
my opportunities to travel the world.
the ability to play piano and appreciate music in new ways through this instrument.
reading.
mountains.
artwork.
reliable shelter.
the joy of a hugging a loved one.
a soft and clean bed.
the sound of rain when going to bed.
clean air.
riding my bike instead of driving.
Alright, 2-3 minutes. Here goes.
I an grateful for…my family, my friends, my host family, getting this experience of living abroad, every day the weather is warm and the sun is shining and my students smile at me, every time Woo Seob yells at me across the cafeteria, all the time off I was granted to go home for my grandma’s funeral and how lucky I have been to have the savings to buy the ticket, the days of rest and home that I am about to experience, being able to route myself through Seattle, all the food cooked for me every day, the health and youth in my body, the endless opportunities that exist in the world.
Nowhere near 50, but I could keep writing for much longer than 3 minutes.